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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.


I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.

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Random thought, as I was reading through the past 15 or so comments here: I have a once-best friend who lives 5-6 hours away and has been busy for years and years raising her son, growing her garden, working her career, and generally living her life. We haven't been in touch much for the past 10 years, though she was very supportive when I was struggling during caregiving and sent me a couple of fun gift packages.

I reached out to her recently and learned she'd been diagnosed with an aggressive and highly fatal cancer. It's been treated, and she may recover—too soon to tell for sure.

It really makes it hit home - that we aren't promised tomorrow or good health. My friend is in good spirits, from what I can tell, and she says this is her new normal, and she's made her peace with it. I hope, for her teenage son's sake, that she can get better and feel more like her old self.

But we really never know for sure about ourselves or our loved ones. We just have to keep doing the best we can and enjoy the health and time we do have.
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Thank you all I appreciate you and your comments.

CW – hasn’t time flown since then . Sometimes seems like yesterday.

Hothouse – thank you. That’s the best we can hope for.

Llama – thank you too. Hope you’re doing well.

Gershun. Thanks. You are very kind.

Ali. Thanks to you too. I am blessed in many ways.
It’s true we haven’t been posting as often on these conversational threads or on the dysfunctional family one. But it sure is nice to still keep in touch with people here. I feel like we’re a bit of a family and miss those who don’t post anymore. This summer, I have been slowed down by one thing or another and too many fibre flareups. Hopefully they will calm down soon.
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*I have to remember to look at the dates on your comments, all. You all haven't been as active as it used to be around some of these threads, I guess. I look back 10 comments and want to say something, then realize you posted months ago. :) Well, it's nice to read your news, anyway, and how you're doing and feeling, even if it's not new news anymore. :)
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Good luck, Hothouse. I don't envy you. Moving is always such a big event and takes a lot of effort and energy; I hope you and DH can pace the work and just do what you can each day and take breaks when you need to. I'm happy you'll be closer to your daughter and grands. 🌻 It will be a new chapter in your lives.
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Happy belated, Golden!! I'm so happy you're doing well. I'm glad you aren't dealing with most of the indignities and discomforts that come with aging for so many. Keep looking after yourself; it's working! 💕
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Happy Birthday Golden!

89, Wow! You wear it well.
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Happy Birthday, Golden.
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Happy belated birthday Golden. Hope you have a happy and healthy year. 🎂🎉🥳
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Oh Golden, can it really be that many years ago we were contemplating your 80th while we were all caregiving? Happy (belated) birthday!
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I reached 89 years last month. 10 years ago was the year of the big fire and evacuation from Fort Mc I don’t think I could do now what I did then. Ten years makes a difference..
Apart from the CFS\FM, I’m doing very well. Even with that I have a decent life, if a bit restricted. I am so thankful not to be plagued with any of the health issues so many people my age have.
Once I get new eye glasses I’ll be set.😎
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Hothouseflower,
The decision is made and hopefully by now you are well on your way. You are still recovering and still grieving. Your daughter and grands are beyond fortunate to have you and your DH be so supportive. Wishing you much success and a great school year with lots of new friends for everyone. Hugs
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Change is hard HotHouse but hopefully this will be a positive move and once you are settled in you'll wonder what all the trepidation was about.
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HHF: Hugs.
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Thinking of you, hot house and hoping things are going well today. Enjoy this new phase of your life and keep in touch. Hugx
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I wish you luck, Hothouseflower!
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We're moving tomorrow and just not looking forward to doing any of this. We are renting an apartment to be near our daughter and grandkids 3.5 hours south of here. We are dong the move ourselves because we are not taking big furniture but it is still going to be a lot of work. My husband who was diagnosed with heart failure seems to be handling all of the work just fine but I am nervous just the same.

Wish us luck, We're gonna need it.
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Thank you for remembering,cwillie.
It's hard to believe it's been 10 years since Mother went.
She was a "holiday "MaMa,loved the holidays,decorated the whole house and the best shopper.If something didn't loom out at her,she passed it by and she wore crazy clothes with sequins & frills,never normal outfits...she was so fun & funny.
I miss her so much and I know how you miss your Mother too.
It really hurts being without them~
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I remember that luckylu 🤗
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It was also my Mother's birthday cwillie and your'e right,it stinks being alone.
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It's a long weekend here and I'm feeling melancholy. This used to be my favourite holiday, it was mom's birthday and our small community used to have a summer festival so there were always lots of visitors and fun things to do. It ****ing sucks being alone.
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cw. Good news
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I've reported the spammer but you all can go ahead and report them too 😏

Smoke has cleared here in SW Ontario Golden
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Wildfire smoke. We've had lots of nasty mosquitoes this year, but only a little wildfire smoke the past few days.
Some of you are experiencing more more than that.

I know how bad it can be - up north you couldn't see across the street some days.

cw - how are you doing in Ontario?

I declined the invitation from the flying monkey and haven't heard a thing since, thankfully.
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SandwichMom - I am sorry and do understand. See if you can take some time for you, do something to give yourself a lift, a treat. Sounds like you need it. I am thankful for this place too. (((((hugs)))))

Thanks, send. Scriptures are always helpful. I am good with my decision. I don't need any more fam dram. Too many bad memories triggered.

I think the ashes are bothering me more. I need to spread them somewhere around here - help the trees grow - and be done with them. It is what it is though not what I wanted. I know we don't always get what we want.
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God's Plan for flying monkeys:

I will stand by you
2 Timothy 4:17

I will help you through
Isaiah 41:13

When you've done all that you can do and cannot cope
Isaiah 41:13

I will dry your eyes
Revelation 21:4

I will fight your fight
Exodus 14:14

I will hold you tight and I won't let go
Deuteronomy 31:6
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Today was “one of those days” where worry and the drain of ongoing caregiving for parents who are aging at home is rough.
So I logged into this site. It always helps to know I’m not alone! It’s a “silent world” we live in as someone once said on here. Our family and friends know we “care for our parents, etc.” but only caregivers know what it’s really like. Our siblings don’t get it. Our children or husbands don’t get it. Our co-workers absolutely don’t get it! But people on here get it. Thank you all. 🩵💜
I am thankful for agingcare.com
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Sounds like a lot, Golden, especially the flying monkey. I tink you are right not to engage. It will only be unnecessary drama.

You take care of yourself too.
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Several things on my mind.

Found out that my middle son was laid off in March and possibly moving down east. They don't communicate with any of us, I called and offered my support and we are, at least in contact for now, They have no children so moving is not a problem. If they moved down east I would probably never see then again and that kind of bothered me.!!!

The saga of Gordie's ashes has another chapter.
We got them, got home and realized there was far more than one person's ashes in the container. It was heavier than the urn I had left there with Gordie's ashes in it. I weighed it and it weighed as much as 1 1/2 people's ashes. I have assumed that the extra ashes are part of his dad's and I am not happy about that. I was looking forward to having my son's earthly remain with me for a while. Now I have to decide what to do with them. It has triggered off a pile of grief, more than I would have expected, but July is a hard month anyway as he passed at the end of the month.

And the last item which belongs on the dysfunctional family page, but I am here now so will share here.

Out oof the blue one of my cousins said he would be out west and would like to meet with me for a meal. This man has been coming out west for years to visit his son and family in Calgary and never made contact with me . He is a flying monkey for my sister, with whom I have cut contact but who has been trying (unsuccessfully) to re-establish contact with me. Note he asked me for a meal., not me and R. He has pried into my life before and, I am certain, shared with my sister. Once I contacted him about family and he said he did not get involved in such things, Hah! So be it. The answer will be thanks, but no thanks. I really didn't need that right now!

Finally we got some rain - now we need more sunshine...

Best to all. I lurk and keep track of what is happening here.. I really need to get to the optician for new glasses. Something else seems to crop up all the time.

HH that was supposed to be "take care of yourself!!!"
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Very sad, HH. Very nasty diagnoses. Sounds like she and her husband are dealing with it as well as possible a the moment , I think you gave her good advice.

Be sure to take care of yourself???
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I met a really nice woman recently and we have gotten together socially a few times over the past couple of months. She is not a close friend. She recently confided that was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia a few months ago. She fully understands what this dementia is going to do to her and she and her husband are figuring out next steps regarding finances and living situation. Right now you wouldn't know that she had this. I don't know her that well and she appears fine to me.

She confided to me yesterday that she is going to be going for a biopsy for a lump in her breast and she asked me my thoughts as to how aggressive she should be with treating it if it turned out to be cancer. I hadn't a clue how to respond. I do know if it were me I probably would want palliative care and not do chemo. So many cancer patients complain of chemo fog and I think chemo probably would be counter indicated. But I didn't want influence her decision.

I ended up telling her to talk to a therapist to figure it out, that it would be better than having this uncomfortable discussion with family and friends right now. I think she should still be able to make these decisions for herself. She won't be able to soon enough.

This is so sad.
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