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DoggieMom, You are not still now living with mom? Are you? I hope not, because you need at 38 to be more independent, and not so enmeshed with her. Her happiness isn't your problem. You have plenty of your own to concern you. Like your mom, I tend toward OCD (after N.'s recent bout in hospital I was home literally lining up things on his dresser, comb, keys, wallet in STRAIGHT LINES, so I can sympathize with your mom if you and doggies are in her home. I would NOT be kind! Just saying, that's a fact. My home, my rules. And I think you shouldn't have to live by her rules, so out you go. Where SHE GOES is up to her. You have your seperate lives and meet and enjoy where you can.

Speaking of meet and enjoy, I am heading to our DeYoung Museum next week to meet a friend and see the Lempicki exhibit. Will be the first time I have been there since I managed to knock down a perfectly nice doctor, aged 85. Or we knocked into one another and he was the one to go down. A bit nervous. Will be watching where I am going this time!

I am assuming that NO ONE here has heard from Need. I do not believe she would voluntarily leave us this long with no one here having an explanation; she was too devoted to this site. It makes me really sad not to know anything about this. Now RealyReal is off grid, too? But I think she does have a busy life other than us.

Bundle, you will be missed! I see you out there making another collection of one-liners for us, or hoping we will forget the others you did before. For me, that's a given, that forgetfulness thing.
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Doggiemom, I have not commented much because I feel rather strongly that you do not bring pets home to others.

We had a horrible time getting my step daughter to understand that. She tried so hard to bring her 2 huskies, in are home, and are 3 cats hated them and they stayed in the basement when she was here, trying like heck to pawn her doggy duties off on us. In the end it ended very ugly, which is sad for her because, me and her dad , could of been much help to her in life, but she didn't want that help she wanted to take over my home , with constant dog fur, honestly they where just destroying everything.

I do know that is not what you are doing, but I'm a firm believer, that if say my stepson, that lives upstairs, wants a dog we all have to want a dog also. If any of are kids just assume they are moving in and bringing there dogs with them, that is a GIGANTIC no from both of us.

I love dogs, but I won't even dog sit. I had a neighbor wanted me to feed her dog while the went away, I said NO, because I new that would keep happening, I have a life and I don't want my time taking up with others pets. If I want a dog I'll get a dog!

I do on occasion, sit for one neighbors dog, but that's only because it when he absolutely needs to do something.

I can imagine have OCD it must be even harder for mom.

Alva, I just googled your museum, look like a really great place to go. Hope your trip goes better this time,!
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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Ok, that makes sense, just id say, maybe be a bit more patient with mom, and understand that the dogs have changed her everyday life.

And to add, I see a lot of people my kids generation, waiting my generation to treat there dogs like they would if they were are grandchildren.

I suspect that is a generation gap thing.

And there is nothing wrong with it either way. But I think my sons generation shouldnt be angry or annoyed at my generation if we don't.
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Sister spent the last two days here doing her annual online workplace training - all I can say is I'm glad WHMIS wasn't a mandatory thing when I was working 😖
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Doggiemom
If you intend now to live with an OCD mom who doesn't much care for your dogs for the duration, the honestly there isn't much left to say to my mind. You are out of the frying pan now, and into the fire. I can only wish you good luck. But this is CHOICE on your part. That kind of takes away any rights to talk a whole lot about how unpleasant it is. This truly is your choice. Given that, take it on happily and whole-heartedly. Refrain from talking about how bad it is, because that, if you know what I mean, only makes the hard times worse and makes them more set in stone, a litany you repeat for no good reason. Just accept it is difficult to live with ANYONE but this is who you wish to live with, and make it the best you can.
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I finally put tassels on a scarf I started, 2 years ago. 🤗 , my first knitting project. Only took 2 years.
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My sister is leaving rehab tomorrow to move into a board and care home . Hoping she does not demand to go back home . I feel so bad for my nephew.

Meanwhile mother in law fell outside her house again . At this point she should give the EMTs a Christmas bonus .
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Rough week, Way. Sorry.
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Thanks Peasuep,

I have to work, otherwise I would have helped my nephew with the move , but luckily a friend is available . But I wish I could be there to back him up with my sister . I drove out this past weekend and told her to treat her son better ( than she has been ).

MIL is a big problem . 😩😩
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nacy - I started embroidering a tablecloth - never did finish it.

way - I'm so sorry about your sis. Sounds like nephew is handling it well. Mil is gong to do what she wants to do, safe or otherwise. It's a waiting game,sn't it? I am so thankful my years of mother care are over.

doggiemom - you know what your mother is like You know living with her is going to be stressful. Isn't it time to look after yourself, rather than living in strife all the time?
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Took a walk with my new scarf, color don't match much of what I wear but looks adorable, it's warm . Definitely back to knitting, I impressed myself 😁
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Nacy, you cracked me up……taking a walk with your scarf! I’m picturing it! Did you have to keep it from chasing passing cars? (I’m spending too much time reading children’s books!)

Anyway, who cares about matching? Especially when it comes to outerwear. Yay for finishing the scarf and sparking your creativity - it’s the perfect time of year for that. DD is the knitter and crocheter in our family, I did a couple baby sweaters and an ‘af-uh-gan’ (as my DGM used to call them) but was never very good at either.
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Peasuep, it's always a proud moment when you taught yourself something new and finished it and can actually use it. 🤗

I crochet very little when I was very young.

Mostly the whole concept to take a string ( yarn) and make something with it was so foreign to me.

I will say it's nice to get a excited about something, no matter what it is. I had my plants and outside work, freezing vegetables, been feeling like I needed something new.

I know that this isn't popular vote but I love the weather we are having. Highs of 50 and sunny. This is my happy weather.
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cw -WHMIS was a pain in the neck even when I was working 15 years ago.

Definitely making something and being able to use it feels very good.
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