
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
maybe a week or so ago Amanda Seyfried was on the Tonight Show. LSS she pulls out a dulcimer!!! sings “California”. Pretty amazeballs as she has a great voice and had this whole retro boho chic look going on. Of course it went viral. Big time viral. And she’s out doing press for that new Peacock series and the Joni Mitchell comparisons keep popping up. Like she’ll do an interview and it will run a Mitchell song for her intro or ending. Or someone’s podcast will talk abt what to stream and her series gets mentioned and presto another Mitchell earworm played.
I image it’s all about her getting placed to do the Mitchell biopic. Like who just happens to have a dulcimer in their car.
bob - your mom will die one day. That's definite. So maybe it was a "heads up" to prepare yourself. I think dreams do reflect what's on our minds.
cw - weird, I agree.
Dreams, to me, usually reflect in some odd way what we are going through and what we are trying to work out in our minds, prepare for, come to terms with. I think that's what your dream means.
The demise of your mom NOW would, I believe, be entirely coincidental, but we being humans, who want REASONS will most certainly make up a whole story around it, just as we do in dreams.
We tell dreams in "art" if you will, in allegory, in stage sets.
I love the dream world--just love it. And I so wonder at that being, for one half our lives, our "real world". I so prefer that world to real life.
I think your dream is lovely, to tell the truth, told with the majesty you see in a state funeral, or the funeral of "someone important".
With that dream and the blood moon tonight, it's making me wonder...
Was it a crazy dream...or a warning/heads up...?
At 83 this year and 84 respectively, my partner and I find that we simply cannot TOLERATE what we once could in unhealthy things; they wreck havoc on our systems. So it isn't for want of trying to eat bad that we eat better. And our old joints MUST keep moving and exercising, or, it is now clear, they will not work well.
Perhaps there is a happy medium somewhere, but in my experience humans aren't great at control. Wish you well. I side with "happiness" if it means the occ. bag of Trader Joe's Original potato chips.
They are loathe to take a citizen's rights if that person is somewhat competent.
You may be down to sitting back and "waiting for the call" from medical, hospital or from the coroner.
To be honest, enforced placement, allowing for another year or so of unhappy life?
Let it go where it's going; don't enable it by stepping in. About all I can say, and that's very tough to do.
She must have done well enough in rehab to go home last month . I have not seen her recently . DH and I saw her prior to rehab in the hospital . We live 4 hours away .
She lies and says she will hire an aide , get grab bars and get a stair lift etc . She says she uses a walker now . Most likely because she can’t do at all without it .
The bar seems to be getting lower as far as discharge . If they are lucid and I guess understand their situation , and the consequences , they can go home .
A wound care nurse comes to the house .
My MIL showtimes very well , is very convincing .
BTW. MIL does not fully comprehend her situation . She thinks she’s going to get better . She’s declining . She is in later stages of CLL, She has lost a ton of weight , gets iron infusions , her color is slightly jaundiced . Also in moderate kidney failure .She’s stooped over so far she’s looking at only the floor when she ( barely ) walks . This has been slowly deteriorating for years .
Can she take care of herself?
If no it is an unsafe discharge and should be reported to JCAHO.
Also, if she isn't able to do own care then the call gets placed and she's transported back. Do that enough and it dings hospital for early re-admit, a big one that clues in JCAHO that there was inadequate discharge and unsafe discharge.
I am so sorry for all you're going through Way.
DH and I just hold on to “ it’s the last parent in this dementia trilogy “. 😭😭
3 out of 4 had/have dementia . MIL is the last parent living .
I'm so sorry you're in the weeds with your MIL. If she showtimes that well and the hospital or APS won't help with her, you're just going to have to let the chips fall where they may. Just trust that none of it is your fault.
The ER sent her back home last night .
We failed at “ unsafe discharge” last month when she was in the hospital . The social worker said she’s “ lucid “ .
She showtimes well . She was sent to rehab last month for a bit . The social worker at rehab never returned one call to DH even though he left messages about being concerned about her going home .
So we wait .
MIL was upset that my DH found out she was at the ER . When DH called the ER and spoke to her , MIL wanted to know who told him . DH didn’t tell her that MIL’s partner’s son had called my DH . The partner’s Alzheimer’s is so bad , and couldn’t remember why my MIL went in the ambulance . Partner’s son figured he’d better call my DH .
Change what things you can. Accept the things you cannot change. Have the wisdom to know the difference.
It is time for you to wash your hands of your MIL. Tell the hospital she is an unsafe discharge and let them figure out what to do with her next.
My deepest condolences at the loss of your friend. All of this life is suffering and none of it is fair. Your friend is beyond all pain and suffering now and I hope knowing that brings you some measure of comfort, my friend.
Last night she called an ambulance due to sciatica pain . Went to the ER asking for narcotics . She got told a big “ NO”, and to wait for her appt she has at the pain clinic next week . The ER sent her back home .
She’s like a bird with a broken wing still trying to fly .
I agree . Life isn’t fair . Young people die who shouldn’t . And old people suffer too long . It all just stinks .
I recommend Roger Rosenblatt's book on his grief over the loss of his daughter, a doctor, at her young age of 38, leaving two babies and a hubby. The book is titled Kayak Morning and is a beautiful meditation on all the thought of what we go through when there is a loss. Rosenblatt, a true believer, said the afternoon he was informed of her sudden death "God, that's the LAST prayer you ever get from me", so you can imagine the impact of the loss of this apparently marvelous child.
Life isn't fair. We all know that. But even "fair losses" can devastate us.
The HOLE that is left by someone we NEED in our life is a perfect description. Nothing says it quite so well.
I also can't help but be angry that my 96 y/o father with his plethora of health issues outlived her. Life is not fair.
Working in the field is the most exciting time of all, in my experience.
Who you "intern" with may want to hire you, which is a compliment and recognition of your value and work ethic.
[If that (Like an internship?) is what you are referencing is the step you are taking.]
Sign yourself up, jump in.
See what the hours are, try it.
And try not to lead with needing accommodations.
You will be doing so well, they might not notice you needed time off. imo.
And you might not either.