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Golden, I'm glad your husband is on the mend.

He sounds so much like my husband, who grew up on a farm. 72 , won't slow down, well he is now because he hurt his neck Jack hammering. He is like solid muscle.

Like you said ya can't control them. Usually when I see he is doing to much , I'll encourage to take a break with me.

Hope the healing continues,🙏
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Thanks all. cw - the prostate and the knee surgery were really nothing to do with his current activities, But being on the road so much increases his chances of being in an accident. I think he needs to rearrange his life abit so it is less dangerous in terms of farm equipment accidents. livestock accidents and vehicular accidents. But he is the one who has to make those decisions. I and others can encourage - gently or otherwise. The farm culture he was brought up in has the farmers working until they physically can't. His dad quit in his 70s when he got a pacemaker and doctors advice.

I should clarify - he is muscularly strong. Everything checked out well. The leg with the knee replacement is stronger than his other one. I think apart from the shock and trauma effect (or part of it) it is his blood pressure dropping that is the major problem. It went down to 50/30 at one point not long after the accident which caused some alarm, They checked his heart and it is good. His BP drops when he get up so he has to take it slowly.

In PT he is doing better every day. But his headache is worse after PT and he has to lie down and rest. They are now saying he may come home Sunday or Monday if he is willing to use a cane, which he is. He certainly has perked up a lot. He can read some now. The snacks have helped get his gut in better order,

He has a lot of experience with trauma - broke his neck, broke his pelvis etc so he knows how his body reacts and that he has to rest to heal. He doesn't want the tv on so I got him a little radio which he likes.

We've talked about soft food as his jaw will be sore for a while. That's easy,

I sort of crashed yesterday and only visited once and slept a lot. The next few days I will take it easy, visit only once a day and get ready for his return.

I am aware that head trauma is a risk factor for dementia. We will take one thing at a time. I believe he will recover well. He has come back from the knee surgery extremely well and also from the prostate surgery and the current hormone treatment which doesn't seem to be holding him back but may be contributing to the headaches.

Lots of rain recently here which clears the air nicely. and helps douse the wild fires.Alva there are always lots many due to lightening strikes in the forest and we have a lot of forest, But it is worse recently with the increased heat.

We so appreciate your prayers, good thoughts and hugs. I know they help.
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Golden, so sorry to hear about R. I hope things will get better soon for him.
I am hearing about the fires and they say there are 100s of fires currently in Canada.
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Golden, May The Lord touch R, may HE be with him during PT and give his body strength. May HE keep you healthy and feeling well while you deal with this. Great big warm hug!!!
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Golden, I’m sorry to hear he’s still in the hospital. Good to hear of his interest in food and drawing. Wrist weights maybe? It’s so difficult to keep up one’s strength while recovering from anything.

More rain here (I’m an hour from the GTA) while the west burns. I hope a soaking soon douses the fires!

Sending vibes of strength your way.
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Thx for the update Golden. You guys are still in my prayers.
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Golden,
Good news but long way to recovery. Great that all the tests are good, maybe they can increase his PT gradually?
Hopefully he will eat enough but lots of tasty snacks will do him good. Even if they are not the best for him but in short term they would not do much harm.
Thinking of both of you and hope you update us.
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Golden, thanks for the update, sounds like he is on the road to recovery, but its going to take some time.

My husband is 6"5 , there's no way a hospital meal would be enough for him.

Hang in there, your both in are thoughts and prayers
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Given all of R's recent troubles I think perhaps someone is sending him a message to take life a little easier now. It's good you have each other for support.
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Thanks all. We so appreciate your thoughts and prayers and hugs,

R is still in hospital as he gets dizzy and worse headaches when he gets up. He needs the walker to be mobile. He is still on heavy painkillers for the headaches but refused more morphine. Yesterday they did some PT with him walking with the walker. Hopefully they will keep that up so he builds up strength as his head heals. You waste away lying in a hospital bed.

He is losing weight not that he needs to) as they are not feeding him enough!!! I told the nurse he needs more food so she will arrange to up his portions and see he has a sandwich at night. He doesn't like to complain! I got him oj and a snack last night from the machines and I'll bring in some healthy (and a few not so healthy 😋) snacks - yop, yogurt, nuts, fruit and cookies. etc. today,

He is weak and I expect he will be there a few days yet. We can't have a fall!!! I doubt he will be able to drive for a while between his vision and the dizziness/headaches.

The good news is he was thoroughly checked out (4 hospitals) and all else is good - even his blond sugar, which has been in the prediabetic range for years, is now normal. He has been motivated to cut back on sweet stuff and I am here to cook proper meals now so he is doing well there. Diabetes 2 runs in the males in his family so we want to do what we can to avoid it if possible.

He has perked up the last few days and did a drawing of a butterfly from a get well card and wants more paper so he can draw more and also to make notes re insurance. I brought in a couple of books and his glasses as he is going to try to read, He has white flashes in one eye, but his retina is ok. They will look at it next month if the flashes have not gone. The vision in the other eye (black and with a stitched cut over it) is blurred but improving thankfully.

He tires easily. An hour visit is a bit too much, I think. He needs a lot of naps, I'm holding up. I have to be careful not to set off a CFS/FM flare up. One day at a time. We are so thankful it wasn't worse.

glad - lots of fires and smoke. It's a pain I know.
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Golden, so sorry to read about R. Hope he heals soon.

Sure looks like you have lots of fires and smoke there, again. I have lost my view of Pikes Peak because of smoke from Canada fires here.
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Golden,
So sorry.
Hoping R will be OK and recovers.
Thinking of you.
Let us know how you are both doing.
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Hugs to you, Golden! I hope he’s out of pain and makes a complete recovery.
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Golden, I am so sorry! I was so sad when I read this last night. I was just thinking about you the other day, that I haven't seen you in a while.

Keep us posted, ❤️‍🩹🙏🙂‍↕️
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Golden, I am so sorry! How awful. The amount of misery drug/drink-impaired drivers cause is staggering.

Thinking of both of you in this horrible crisis.
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Golden: Prayers for R AND you.
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Golden,

So sorry for this scary and painful accident.

I'm sure you will be glad to have R home again.

Will be thinking of both of you and hoping for no lasting effects.
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Golden! So sorry to hear of this!

I'm glad R is well enough to come home.

Prayers for R and of course you.
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Oh Golden! Praise The Lord that R is still with you. I will believe with you that he will have no lasting affects from that crash.

May The Lord give you both strength and comfort during this difficult time.
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Didn't know where to put this, but this is sure on my mind.

R was in an automobile accident. He (in a Ford Explorer) was rear-ended by a car driven by a girl on some drugs, Both vehicles were totalled. He has head injuries - severe concussion, some eye and teeth problems and a very sore head, neck and chest. The young driver had a broken leg and the other two girls were not injured.

He has been in hospital since Monday 15th and is coming home tomorrow. We are so thankful it wasn't worse.

You never know when your life is going to be stirred up do you?
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I am shocked and discussed and disturbed about the amount of people more concerned with a house, than they are about there parents well being.

I honestly had no clue this is so ramped.

This is what is going on in my family also. And I'm realizing it's all so common.

I honestly don't understand how a grown arse adult is more worried about there inheritance, or so attached to there childhood home than , someones well being.

How can we as a society gotten so dam heartless!!
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I am so Miserable with the heat this year.

I was able to walk all winter, and spring , I gave it up for now. Use to be in the winter you would join a gym and not go in the summer, I feel like it has totally switched gears. Like did I move south and didn't know it.

I don't know if the weathers changed or my body. I've never been a fan of the heat but this is ridiculous. Making me feel depressed.
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We all feel the way you and waytomisery feel. And I totally agree. I just disagree with the words being used.

It's your right to say whatever you want , and it's my right to find it a bit wrong and ignore it or say something.

I'll ignore it from now on just wanted to tell you my opinion
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I do understand that words have power and I would never tell someone their home was a cell. We were having a discussion about another older woman who was forced to give up her home and move into The Villa and I said something about giving up your things and cramming them into a cell. My thoughts were the same as Way's
"Some AL are very nice , but no matter how nice , moving in AL often is a reminder of someone’s age and decline"
I do know that these places exist for a good reason and many people live satisfying lives there but I'm so tired of the narrative that this is a "good thing" (as Martha Stewart used to say). It may be a necessary thing but if it was such a good thing there'd be a whole lot more of us living in communes.
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CW , it's kind of the way we say things that improve are negative and depression.

It's like if you say I have to go to work, verses I get to go to work.

I have to.. is an ughhh

I get to ... Is lucky.

Lucky to have a job

Lucky to be healthy enough to work

Words really change the whole meaning of a word.

And the way we say them.

When my mom says someone is gay , her voice, look on her face and everything is hateful.

But if I say someone is gay , its just they are matter of fact gay without the face, they may be heterosexual or homosexual, don't matter to me either way kind of voice.
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Way - some homes just can't be renovated practically to make them more accessible. I wish new home builders and our building codes would pay more heed to practical universal design considerations.
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Way, yeah some house it just doesn't work.

We had a small efficiency apartment my husbands son (Nero divergent) was sleeping in. We moved him upstairs and Redid the room for a giant master bedroom and bathroom. Like 5 years ago. Put a tub in , which wasn't the best choice, now we are talking about a more efficient bathroom, eventually.

We kept the outside door, my thinking is if he dies I have the option to turn the room back to an apartment for me and rent the rest of the house.

CW, I luv you but I think calling a room a cell is a bit to strong. It's used to degrade prisoners .
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Beatty - I think the word cell definitely applies to my local retirement home, (although it felt like you were entering a luxury area when crossing over from the even more depressing nursing home). There are some newer very swanky assisted living places in nearby larger communities, but who can afford $5K or more per month?
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Anxiety ,

adding on would be very expensive . I thought about we could put a full bathroom and closets where the dining room is although it would be weird since it’s by the front door . And my husbands office could be a bedroom ( no closets ) , would have to put double doors to close up the office . The problem with that is if we had to sell , no one would want to buy the house with a bathroom where the dining room should be . A stair lift would be cheaper and more easily removed to sell the house . The half bath is not able to be expanded , because of its location in a small hallway leading to the garage between the laundry room , and kitchen .
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Waytomisery, is there any way to build an addition for a master bath and bedroom, or change the down stairs, to accommodate a bedroom.
I know some homes it just really doesn't work, without a huge amount of money.
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