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Anxiety ,

Let POA brother know you will be away and NOT AVAILABLE for those days .

Don’t feel bad about it .

One time I went away to visit my kid up at college for the weekend . My sister ( who rarely did anything ) called me to come back home because Mom was in the hospital with an ischemic bowel event again for the second time . I said “ No , the hospital will take care of her “. My sister was not happy that I would not come home because my mother would not let staff help her toileting and had my sister doing it , which is what I had done in the previous time . The first time was worse and Mom was scared. I told sister to tell Mom to use her call bell and go home .

After that , when her third ischemic bowel incident happened ( bloody stools ) , I decided I no longer would spend all day at the hospital , or do any hands on care ever . Mom had to get used to being cared for by the staff . I told my mother she had staff to help her . I rang her call bell and left when the staff came in to clean her up .

Let your brother figure out how to get Mom’s needs met.
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Husband wants to go to the coast for a few nights, leaving mom right now is making me sick to my stomach.

I know I gotta get my crap together. My brother the POA goes where ever he wants , when ever he wants.

I need to follow my own advice.
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I never understood the term emotional rollercoaster, but man do I get it now.

Yesterday I was down. Then today after some light bulb moments, I'm up.

Taking a break to day from any mom worry, but if she calls I'll be back down.

Up , down, up down.

My goal is to keep my ups for as long as I can, and go through my downs as quickly as I can
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Never mind I found what I was looking for
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Was there a discussion started about how caregiving has changed you. I can't seem to find it , if anyone knows , or can find it that would be awesome
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I met my hwp in 2019, He said he was diagnosed with PD in 2010
I was in love! I married my hwp on April fool's Day 2021! He was 72 and I was 64!
I did a lot of research on PD and new or thought I knew what I was signing up for!
His PD was there but it was very hard to tell. We did a 6-week cross country road trip honeymoon! It was amazing!
I retired in August 2021 so we could spend more time together!
We have done a lot of traveling by air (Hawaii twice )and by car.
We survived COVID together! We rode bike and trike for awhile and we were very active!
Our life has been really really good! We are now Snowbirds from Oregon to Arizona in the winter. I worry that traveling will get more difficult. We used to drive but now he flies with a relative and I drive the car.
Now 5 years later, things are very different to say the least. I just never know who I'm going to encounter from day to day!
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I did what I think might of been a bit evil today.

Mom neighbor wanted to mow the lawn today, I told him no worries my brother will do it when he gets back.
( He has been in Maine all weekend with my ex)
Now he is going to stop at moms and find a nice high lawn to cut.

😜😈
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I suspect your cats are higher functioning than your DH's friend?
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About a month ago a friend of my husbands stopped by, lost his keys while he was here. We never found them. It's like the complete disapeard. He blamed my cats. If I suspected my cats I would say so but that is not there MO. We all know are animals.

Today he came over again, now he came back says he lost his cellphone and he left it here. We can't find it anyplace. Of course he is blaming my cats again.

I'm not sure what to think
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Oh my sends heat index here is 92. That's enough for me!

Take care, keep cool and hydrate!

CW, I love that Idea. 😂

Bundle and beaty I will miss you 😔
I'll try and put a joke in there now and then.
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Stay cool Send. But I think they need to make water parks specifically for older people... picture wading pools, splash pads and gentle wave pools populated with grey haired folks in wheelchairs and using walkers!
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@ 115 degrees outdoors,
what better time is there than to be inside
with your computer
in the air-conditioned space you call home?

There will be caregivers needing support
Have a nice break
and then come back
You all are needed here!

Remembering Countrymouse who started this thread! Where ya been?

My computer broke, so I will check in when I am able, but not leaving.

Love from Sendhelp
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I'll also take a break 🫖.
Time to finish some library books & have some digital detox 📚🌳❤️
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taking a break from the forum. i’ll return.

🙂🙂🌸🌸🍀🍀
bundle of joy
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THank's @way.
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Alva is on her month off from the Forum .
Visiting with her daughter .

Idk about Need .
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Where's Alva? I hope she's OK. Also haven't seen Need post in a while either. I hope she's OK too.
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Ahhh, Way, I hope it helps. Asthma is no fun!
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Golden ,

I’m hoping to get allergy shots to help control the asthma that is being triggered .
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I wouldn't say our health care is broken. Mother had great care at no cost to any of us. but we do have a grave shortage of doctors in Northern Alberta at this time.

It concerns me that they are so rushed at that clinic. Seems to me more mistakes could be made. But they do seem very competent. They took my blood pressure height, weight and blood sugar right off the bat, Never had my blood sugar taken in a doctor's office before. I think it is a good idea.

Way I quit bothering with tests. I did the skin allergy test years ago but they didn't reveal my allergy to dairy or gluten - just some pollen and molds. It was not that useful.
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Way, yeah your right there are!
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There are delays in the states too . Some areas worse than others .

Im on a 6-9 month waiting list for skin scratch allergy tests so I can get allergy shots , I already know I’m pretty much allergic to air at this point .
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Oh good, I thought so but wanted to be sure. I've heard that your health care system was broken. Wow I never expected it to be that bad. I'm so sorry
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Proud Canadian, yes!!!! 🍁
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Golden, I'm glad your getting some where's. I'm sorry I can't remember are you in Canada?
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Nacy -could be a good opportunity.

Well, I finally made it to a doctor here. His receptionists/nurses were kind, and caring and professional. The doctor was OK - careful, and straightforward. I am good with him. But there are two problems. The clinic is in E'ton and there is much road construction in the area. I went in a circle till I found them. And the other thing is that they are a walk-in clinic so everyone and their dog was there, crying baby, snuffling, coughing people. Not so good. The construction will pass eventually, but the walk-in nature will not. And they are rushed off their feet with too much work as there aren't enough drs here.

But these days there isn't much to choose from. There is a dr closer to me and I will try him in a while. His office is on the edge of E'ton only 20 mins away and seemingly not so busy. It might work!
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Way, great minds think alike 😜
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Anxiety ,

An ER trip that results to a hospital admission is your chance to pass the baton to POA as it should be .
Do not bring Mom home . Let POA figure out where Mom goes . Tell POA Mom needs to be placed , you are done .
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The doctor gave mom a shot of Motrin ( I guess) supposed to help for 24 hours. And she is suppose to go to pain management.

But they said they have done all they can do, and she is going to have to go to ER if the pain gets unmanageable again
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