
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Nacy, you’re accepting the peace offering in spite of your difficult history - you don’t have to and no one would blame you if you didn’t, but you are. I admire you.
My Mom was nice the last few months she was alive . It was because she knew she was dying . She told me so . Her brain was working a bit better too . It was strange .
LynnBro - you sure do belong here. It is a very difficult time when a parent starts to show signs of dementia. Glad your dad is at least in an NH. Psue's suggestion of posting separately is a good one, but come back here any time.
Psue - good idea for nacy about the calendar. You can stop fretting about your weight any time you want to.Thx re the stories. It's not my new found alone times. R has had somewhere to bunk at one or another place where he has kept horses. One time he was managing a farm...the pump house years. Pretty chilly in the winter. We lived apart for a number of years I was in Fort Mc and he was in this area b/c of several reasons. Covid being one of them. We both are very independent and like/need space. Hope the drs appointment went well.
Mac this was intended to be a "chat" thread See the original post "Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please."
I’m with Nacy, I love your stories and if you wrote a book in your new found alone time, I would buy it and read it!
Leave it up on the wall so every blue moon when YB happens by he can see how much he’s missing.
The format over there allows others to respond directly to you over time and you can answer back. Your question won’t get lost down the thread like it can in Discussions.
If I knew how to get your original post moved over I would do it myself because I can feel how weary you are and I know there are many here that will listen and offer support and understanding.
I don’t want you to get lost and miss out so please, click on Forum, above, and repost your question. Then spend some time clicking around and you will be pleased by what you find. I’m so glad you’re here!
Also on my mind today is house humidity in cold climates. I got a couple of hygrometers and was a bit surprised to find the living humidity at 15 -20, and the bedroom not much better. I have been running a humidifier in the bedroom for some time but apparently it's not doing a whole lot of good.
So I ordered a good humidifier from Amazon which is coming next week. Supposed to be enough for the whole condo (just about) and is a top filler. I wonder that the plants are doing as well as they are! I have certainly felt dried out at times.
nacy hope your hub is better, and psue that yours for through the visit OK.
Time alone!!! Absolutely necessary! The condo has less space and rooms than the house, obviously, but I can retire to my bedroom for peace if I have to. Actually R's latest arrangement with the colts has an equipped house and garage on the property and he has been told he is free to use it. He will set up space for repairing riding equipment and be able to store stuff there. and work on his hobbies. There just isn't room here. What a blessing! He will also stay overnight when the weather is bad and he has been working late - or if either of us need space, which we quite often do. 😊
Pam, the young ones don’t retire but they move on to greener pastures quite regularly. No judgement, just an observation.
Can you escape to your sunroom? The hard part about alone time in the winter is you can’t go outside and putter, mindlessly, in the garden and it’s hard to sit quietly when the dishes need washing or there’s dust on the lampshades.
Glad you’re feeling positive so far!
Appointments are scheduled at the two closest AL/MC facilities next week. I’m going alone just in case either of them gives me uncomfortable feelings. I tend to have strong and immediate intuition about things and I’d rather DH not see it.
Eva, yes, indeed, we do not fall.
OK, so I fell a little, but I got back up again and so far my resolve is strong. I’ve felt positive about my decision to move forward with placement but I’m a little bit worried about ever being seen having fun afterward - is that weird?
Golden, having a doctor close by is a real blessing. I would have taken a Doogie Houser age doc if they were close.
Golden: Glad that your new doctor worked out for you and is close by.
Llama -well done. You got through it. That's a lot of work all at once. Glad the rain wasn't a problem. Take all the rest you need! Hope the healing goes well.
Saw my new doctor yesterday. She's very young and probably in her first job. Mind you anyone under 50 looks young to me lol. I hope she will loosen up a bit, but over all she said and did the right things and she's only 5-10 minutes drive away. I'm thankful,
“I’m taking my own mental and physical health into consideration when that is not allowed - I should only be considering him! I am not wearing sackcloth or a black armband or covering the mirrors or whatever they deem appropriate.”
I had to quote you, well said!
Keep strong, we stumble but never fall!
Having a little chuckle to imagine myself in sackcloth.
Good thing for otherwise blah day!
Awesome!!!
At the same time I know you are grieving, but that doesn't meant you have to fall apart. You are keeping your dignity. There probably will be moments when you are alone or with a trusted one that you will let your guard down and bawl your eyes out. That's OK too and even necessary sometimes for many people.
Well done. They will leave and you can relax a little. Hope hub stays calm for you. Keep us updated.
I’m showing calm strength when I should be a puddle of despair. I’m taking my own mental and physical health into consideration when that is not allowed - I should only be considering him! I am not wearing sackcloth or a black armband or covering the mirrors or whatever they deem appropriate.
I’ve already worked out all of that with YOU!!
AHA! It’s YOUR fault!
(I thank you from the bottom of my heart, but now I’m in trouble ❤️)
None of us in invulnerable and no, you are not 16 again. You have years more of life experience you can draw on. I agree with nacy and ana, it is not hand holding but informed support. We all need it at times, some times more than others. This is a "more" time for you and that's OK. That's why we are here. We'll all been there and likely will be again.
Oh, dear one. he still adores you as much as he ever did. Remember that his brain is broken so it is not operating as usual. I think you are wise not to go along. I hope the sibs see some of the decline. I know in families those who are not regularly around the LO with early dementia, don't see it and think the caregiver is exaggerating. You don't need their approval to place him. If you can make the doc/social worker bethe bad guys when the subject does come up, that may help. Honestly I think they need to know about the episode. It is a medical issue, showing progression of his disease, not a spouse putting their partner down.
I'm glad you can spend some time with your mom. I hope it is good for you. I have no doubt it will be good for her.
Remember caregivers need to look after themselves. Be sure you are doing that, and not just looking after others. This is a heavy time. My heart goes out to you, Prayers for it to go well.