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Today begins the start of me asking dH to get the decorations out of the shed-to celebrate Christmas. Done hearing about the date of the celebration is wrong; the wise men did not arrive right after the birth, having a tree or wreath is a pagan practice, etc.
NOT.

Trying something different maybe. To avoid all the nagging, begging, heartache,
shouldn't I just pay to have decorations?

Waking up Thanksgiving morning, was met with Mr. Grouchy Bear, a reoccurring attitude during the holidays. Silent treatment. Increasing and changing as he gets older. Used to be, that a sickness occurred in Nov. and Dec., having photos of him on the couch, ill. At least now, he does not get ill, and the early oregano oil treatment (drop on hands, breathe it in) has worked.

Maybe I will buy only what I can put up, and decorate my own personal space.
Not wanting to force any joy at Christmas on anyone.

I am grateful for my husband, very good at many things throughout the year.
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I do very little decorating these days, but I like my little fake inside tree and a few things around. Some decorate their front door area and I will again. It's nice to see what others do. I also have an artificial tree (not fir) on the balcony with some lights on it. The fireplace could use a garland but you gotta stop somewhere...

Looks like we are going to Calgary for Christmas for a few days. I am inviting my the kids and grandkids to Sunday brunch the weekend before Christmas at the revolving restaurant in E'ton. It's a good time for us all to get together. Doubt my son and dil from Fort Mc will make it but the others will.

nacy - enjoy all the "treasures"

Psue - you dismantle it all on the 26th??? 🎄 Wow, I'm impressed!!!

Colour me well retired. R wanted to set up a spread sheet for some reason and I faked it. It wasn't complicated but it'd been years and many updated versions since I used Excel. As I worked on it things were coming back, so maybe next time.
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I love decorating for Christmas, but I LOVE having it all packed away and out of my face on Dec. 26 even more!
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cw -WHMIS was a pain in the neck even when I was working 15 years ago.

Definitely making something and being able to use it feels very good.
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Nacy, you cracked me up……taking a walk with your scarf! I’m picturing it! Did you have to keep it from chasing passing cars? (I’m spending too much time reading children’s books!)

Anyway, who cares about matching? Especially when it comes to outerwear. Yay for finishing the scarf and sparking your creativity - it’s the perfect time of year for that. DD is the knitter and crocheter in our family, I did a couple baby sweaters and an ‘af-uh-gan’ (as my DGM used to call them) but was never very good at either.
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nacy - I started embroidering a tablecloth - never did finish it.

way - I'm so sorry about your sis. Sounds like nephew is handling it well. Mil is gong to do what she wants to do, safe or otherwise. It's a waiting game,sn't it? I am so thankful my years of mother care are over.

doggiemom - you know what your mother is like You know living with her is going to be stressful. Isn't it time to look after yourself, rather than living in strife all the time?
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Thanks Peasuep,

I have to work, otherwise I would have helped my nephew with the move , but luckily a friend is available . But I wish I could be there to back him up with my sister . I drove out this past weekend and told her to treat her son better ( than she has been ).

MIL is a big problem . 😩😩
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Rough week, Way. Sorry.
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My sister is leaving rehab tomorrow to move into a board and care home . Hoping she does not demand to go back home . I feel so bad for my nephew.

Meanwhile mother in law fell outside her house again . At this point she should give the EMTs a Christmas bonus .
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Doggiemom
If you intend now to live with an OCD mom who doesn't much care for your dogs for the duration, the honestly there isn't much left to say to my mind. You are out of the frying pan now, and into the fire. I can only wish you good luck. But this is CHOICE on your part. That kind of takes away any rights to talk a whole lot about how unpleasant it is. This truly is your choice. Given that, take it on happily and whole-heartedly. Refrain from talking about how bad it is, because that, if you know what I mean, only makes the hard times worse and makes them more set in stone, a litany you repeat for no good reason. Just accept it is difficult to live with ANYONE but this is who you wish to live with, and make it the best you can.
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Sister spent the last two days here doing her annual online workplace training - all I can say is I'm glad WHMIS wasn't a mandatory thing when I was working 😖
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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DoggieMom, You are not still now living with mom? Are you? I hope not, because you need at 38 to be more independent, and not so enmeshed with her. Her happiness isn't your problem. You have plenty of your own to concern you. Like your mom, I tend toward OCD (after N.'s recent bout in hospital I was home literally lining up things on his dresser, comb, keys, wallet in STRAIGHT LINES, so I can sympathize with your mom if you and doggies are in her home. I would NOT be kind! Just saying, that's a fact. My home, my rules. And I think you shouldn't have to live by her rules, so out you go. Where SHE GOES is up to her. You have your seperate lives and meet and enjoy where you can.

Speaking of meet and enjoy, I am heading to our DeYoung Museum next week to meet a friend and see the Lempicki exhibit. Will be the first time I have been there since I managed to knock down a perfectly nice doctor, aged 85. Or we knocked into one another and he was the one to go down. A bit nervous. Will be watching where I am going this time!

I am assuming that NO ONE here has heard from Need. I do not believe she would voluntarily leave us this long with no one here having an explanation; she was too devoted to this site. It makes me really sad not to know anything about this. Now RealyReal is off grid, too? But I think she does have a busy life other than us.

Bundle, you will be missed! I see you out there making another collection of one-liners for us, or hoping we will forget the others you did before. For me, that's a given, that forgetfulness thing.
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DoggieMom, that is so great for both you and your mom! Congratulations! Time to go enjoy a more carefree life!
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I had a long talk with my mother and she agreed that moving will be good for us. She can be closer to her sister, but I'm a senior living apartment (I think she's not cut out for living with someone else). My aunt has dogs, so she says she can like dogsit without ownership. I realized I'm more independent at 38 than 16 years ago. I think my mom would benefit from senior groups so she could help others by baking or having book groups.
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BOJ: Thanks for letting us know so we don’t worry.
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i’ll be taking a break from the website. i’ll return. huggggg.

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On my mind…

🥰 Meeting someone accidentally,
then having them become a huge part of your life.
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That’s just awful. I don’t blame you for wanting to get as far away as you can. Think how much free time she’ll have when she doesn’t have to spend it cleaning up after you….good grief. I’m sorry for you “and your little dog, too!”
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Not really to her it’s all helping me. My brother is super OCD and so is she. Anything that falls below their level of clean is less a slob. Being told you “stink” and having to clean a chair hurts. I have never repaid my family for helping me move even though I have offered money. At this point, I think my dogs deserve better to get away from the stress. All I’ll hear is how grateful I should be I have my mother alive.
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Ah, I see. I honestly don’t know what I would do in your situation either. If you know your DIL’s mother or a sibling it might be appropriate to mention you’re concerned about her health but that could also be construed as meddling. This is a hard one and may only get more difficult the longer it continues. I’m sorry you’re in this predicament.
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Nacy, that’s scary. Are you close? Would mentioning it to your son be appropriate or be seen as a betrayal? Are you concerned about anorexia or something else?
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Doggiemom, do you think your mom knows how awful she is to you? Not that that makes any difference to you, on the receiving end, I’m just curious.
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I can't wait to move to another state. My mom and I reached loggerheads today. I tried to show her some music from Wicked I liked. She said it has no rhyme and how could I like it. Okay, fine, we have different tastes. She has a chair in the room I sat in. Well, she told me I stink and spent two hours scrubbing the chair and the room. One of my dogs had a pee accident and she flipped and told me what a slob I am. I am done. Just done.
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I can still handle scary and suspenseful tv but I’ve given up on sad books. I just got surprised with one and had to stop reading as soon as the wonderful, loving, wise and sweet guy said his back hurt.
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Bundle, this is why I never watch scary, dark or even suspenseful content. I don't even watch something if I know it has an unhappy or vague ending (I usually force my sons to give me the "spoiler" so I can know). IMO life is stressful and sad enough so why would I put more of that into my head?? Now I watch what is called Kdrama (Korean dramas and romcoms) w/subtitles. They are mostly formulaic but usually have 16 episodes that are 1 hr long each. They are wholesome and engaging, equivalent to our "Hallmark" channel shows. I think many of the plots are a little more clever and I enjoy learning about aspects of Korean culture that are in each series. Plus there is lots and lots of content. I watch on Netflix and my Viki.com subscription. Hulu, AppleTV and Disney+ also have Korean content. ( My exception has been the Harry Potter movies, which are so well done.)
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i just watched a true crime movie. should NOT have done that. now i’m afraid to walk around in my own home; any creaky noise.

must go back to watching my usual innocent, feel-good rom coms. will watch one RIGHT AWAY.
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wishing us all good health!!
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Golden: Thank you; home health has been a godsend.
My goodness - that is difficult to wake up and then get back to sleep. Prayers for your sore throat to get better. Wrap up in a warm blanket.
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Llama - glad home care is going well.

Thank you. No, I don' t take any sleep meds. I usually wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours then go back to sleep. I am just feeling a sore throat and have been cold today, so maybe that made it worse.
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