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I honestly had no idea that people took pictures of the dead many many years ago! I guess I thought it was something that us younger folks started doing now that most everyone has a phone with a camera on it! My gosh 1927 was almost 90 years ago!

Luckylu I’m with you—who needs shoes in heaven? My MIL was not buried in shoes. You just reminded me though, when my grandmother died I tried to open her casket after the funeral! I was only 6 though and I just wanted to see her again. I don’t know that she was even in the casket, she was cremated but I don’t know if it was before or after the funeral. My uncle saw and quickly stopped me. I’m horrified now—not only because of my blatant disrespect but if my grandmother was in that casket and I opened it, my family would have been so upset!
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The night we were at the funeral home I pulled out Mother's dress she would wear and the Cross that my Father had given her that she wanted to be buried in and my 2 brother's got out their camera and took pictures of the necklace and it was so disrespectful and tacky to me.
The next day,one of my brother's called me at home and told me to bring Mother some shoes.That he had looked in the casket and saw she only had on socks.
That was so disrespectful.Who opens a casket and you don't need shoes in Heaven.
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I remember a photo my FIL showed me once of his GM. She was dressed laid out in bed with her grown children circling the bed. She was dead. I think she died in 1927.

And today there are drive through funeral homes where the deceased in casket is available for viewing.
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My hIsband has lost 5 family members on his mother’s side in the last 6 years-2 uncles, both grandparents and his mother. His uncle, that had been away in psychiatric lock up for years (mentally ill, went to prison for stabbing someone) was the first die. They had a graveside service for him. And same with the other uncle. And one of the cousins brought a camera to both services and photographed the services and people posed for pictures afterward. And they posted open casket pictures too. My MIL was very upset when she saw pictures of her deceased brothers on Facebook and made it very clear that when she died, we were NOT to post anything on Facebook. When my uncle died, taking pictures never crossed my mind! At my husbands grandparents services, they did take pictures again but I don’t recall people posing the way they did at the uncles services. It’s a foreign concept to me. We’ve never ever taken pictures at a funeral in my family.
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Really?? Record a funeral and have it on fb?! Is anything private today? Morbid indeed!!
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Ugh. Just because something can be done doesn't mean it should be done. That kind of reminds me of how some people would take pictures of the dead lying in the casket back in they day - who wants to preserve that kind of memory?
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My SIL had a friend pass away (I didn't know the deceased) and she actually live-streamed the funeral on Facebook. I have never heard of such a thing. Apparently it's done through funeral homes sometimes as a means of allowing loved ones who can't attend to view the service in a closed forum, but just recording the graveside service and putting it on your Facebook page? This seemed kind of morbid and tacky to me. Yes, this is the same melodramatic SIL who went on for 2 weeks on FB about my husband's uncle's death, and she wasn't even very close to him.
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175 cows. All materials. All colors. All sizes.

Why didn't I say I collect diamonds or rubies or pearls or.....
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My house is full of rabbits~
Even fake rabbits multiply.
Just because I decided to collect them as a child.
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Ageism.

A friend of dds, who dropped by a week or so ago, while they were out having a coffee said to my daughter, "How nice your mum dresses up and has a boyfriend."

Gack!!!

Bleah!!!

I always dress nicely and have had a man around for much of my life,

She comes from a background of alcoholic parents who died in their 60's and has worked in a senior's home, so I guess, in part, that explains it.

I told my dd to tell her that my mother was still doing volunteer work in Haiti aged 85 She can also add that my sister in her 80's, recently remarried and they have traveled extensively this past year.

This is the lady who grabbed my arm as I was walking downtown on the way to lunch with her and dd last winter. I thought she was afraid of falling on the ice. She assumed I needed the help because I was 80, I didn't. SMH!
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Pam, I have the same issue with cat things.

I also remember getting gifts items used around the kitchen, even though I hate to cook. Sorry, but a blender isn't going to spark my interest in culinary doings :P
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Thank you Lord, for answered prayers! You are the God who calms the waters.
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If my people
Who are called by my name
Will humble themselves and pray.....

Praying that the Lord will turn the storm away, decrease it's power, save and heal our land.

8 p.m. Sunday.
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Queue the clowns. = Get them to line up.
Que the clowns. = Send in the clowns.
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Linda, you should start serving all your dinners to people on paper plates and using plastic utensils, then they might gift you china and silver :) Just sayin
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Linda, I really thought you were going to say you got Flintstones crap for the rest of your life! I am surrounded by people who like to get me "themed" gifts.. as in,, I have cats,, always have. I now have enough totchkas cat related to open my own store. Yes I have a cat or two ( not counting the ferals we feed) but I DO NOT collect cat items,, pictures, figurines, clothes, napkins, mugs,, you get it. But now I apparently do! And so does my local goodwill upon occasion.. wink wink
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Smeshque, I think sometimes people get gifts based on what they like. I once served a relative a mixed drink in a Flintstones glass mug (from McD's) since it was close to the size of a rocks glass (about 8 oz.) We had young kids, so I didn't bother trying to have matching glassware (except for the set of 8 FIintstones mugs) since glasses broke routinely. So, for several Christmases, I received barware from this relative...decanters, daiquiri glasses, champagne flutes, wine glasses. What they didn't think about is I rarely drink and DH is fine with our everyday glasses for beer. :-)
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Praying for Florida.

I wonder why someone would send someone they know, a gift that person would not use nor enjoy.
For example gardening gloves for someone who does not garden. Or jewelry to one who wears absolutely no jewelry.
So frustrating to me the thoughtlessness of my siblings.
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Wishes for safety for Florida
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Still feeling the earth move, under my head....
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Thursday morning:
M 6.3 - 284km WNW of Bandon, Oregon

Thursday about 3 a.m. (I was up)
Two EQ within a minute in Mentone, CA
3.0 and 2.5 magnitude
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Does anyone else want to scream when someone says "You're still young. Once this is over, you can have a life for yourself. You can do anything you want!" "This" would be the deaths of my mom & my husband, each suffering from a different type of dementia.
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Thanks smeshque~
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Not an antique Lu, unique, genuine, one of a kind
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If the 1990's are considered vintage,then I must be an antique~
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Why must the fallout from our Loved Ones deaths continue for so long after the fact? Four and a half years!

I woke up at 3:15 am. I go with DHs sister to the attorneys office this afternoon to go over gathered info to be used in DHs and his sister’s case against 2 other siblings, Co Independent Executors.

Why am I going? Because I am the calm, sensible one. The keeper of the records.

Calm? Sensible? Not this morning. I’m angry. I feel aggressive. I am mad as h3ll!

I literally need to punch an inanimate object...
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On my mind....who the heck was my mother? The woman who use to bath me and put my sheet and blankets in the dryer to be nice and warm for me on those cold winter nights and made sure I made it through all those heart breaking moments that happens in life? Or was she the woman who secretly stealing my things and saying horrible things about me to my brother so he could grow up to hate me? All so that she would have someone on her side! I thought we were on the same side! How could a mother do such things to her kids and live with herself is something that I just can't wrap my mind around! And I never will!! On one hand she was a good mom; on the other hand, she was one of the worst mothers ever. She broke my heart until there was nothing left...nothing for her...I feel no love for her...God I am a horrible person! I am working on forgiving her...its hard! I know she is paying the price for what she has done, but so am I...well it ever be paid in full for me? Did I pay to high of a price to be her daughter? That is what is on my mind as I lay in my bed!!!
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Bad storm just came through. Power went out😥
Using our oil lamps. The only thing I collect.
Got mom set up and lights throughout, hope they get it on soon, so she doesn't get too warm, have front door open for air since front porch is covered. DH and I use to live like this. Brings back some fond memories. Chose to modernize for parents.
Anyway, that's what is on my mind right now.
However, I like better what was on Send`s mind.
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Caregivers are good people!

“For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’” — Matthew 25:35-36.
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Shell, what is your brother pressing charges against your mother for?

How would pressing criminal charges result in your mother losing her house?
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