
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
The first verse:
Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door
A beautiful song actually.
Llama, I hope you and your husband’s health situation is improving.
My father in law was another selfish manipulator .
The only one of our 4 parents that wasn’t at all like that was my Dad .
Sometimes the caregiver is the one trying to resist being controlled by the narcissists .
No one here misses the absence of dates on posts?
Because "times are changing" "things are changing" and "we can't stop it"?
It is not important? Have you ever entered to search for an update on "fire" or "earthquake" news, and found you have been reading about an earthquake two years ago? (The date is important.)
Mind control (also known as brainwashing, coercive persuasion or thought control) refers to the way some people have tried to control the beliefs and behaviours of others (of any age, any generation).
It is a process where a group or individual uses methods to persuade others to change their basic beliefs and values. A group or individual may use unethical methods to persuade others to believe and do what the manipulator(s) want. It often harms the person being manipulated.
The term has been applied to any tactic, psychological or otherwise, which undermines (damages) an individual's control over their own thinking, behaviour, emotions or decision making.
Theories of brainwashing and of mind control were originally developed to explain how totalitarian regimes appeared to succeed systematically in indoctrinating prisoners of war through propaganda and torture techniques.
Control of what day/time it is; what & when you eat, and a whole long list of mind control techniques are more successful if you cannot tell the time, read a calendar, know what day it is, know where you are, etc.
Have you ever heard of prisoners scratching the walls with the number of days gone by? Why do you think they would do that?
I get it, I get what you are saying about the older generation complaining about the younger generation. And if any of us come under the control of a narcissist, we need to fight their attempts at control over us.
When caregivers are done listening, we need to walk away.
Are you sure you haven’t visited my MIL lately ?
I’m tired of her complaining about my kids generation to us . I tell her times have changed , then she always says “ Well I don’t like it “. I normally say ,” well we can’t stop it .”
Next time she says it , I’m telling her “ Nobody asked you “. I’ve tried being nice but I’m done listening to it , and my tongue bleeding .
Nacy,
Not strange at all. There is this concept of U curve measuring happiness which is high for children then decreases especially in 40s and then goes up in 50-60s.
Maybe we just learn to respect ourselves more, have less problems, or handle them better. Maybe we just simply decided to be happy no matter what.
🍀🍀🍀🌸🌸🌸
Great Big Warm Hug!!
Wishing only the best for you and DH. Thank you for letting us know.
“The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you."
so sorry to hear that. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I get it . I won’t drive through Brooklyn or Queens anymore . They drive crazy there in general .
Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind getting the form filled out . But ……. I think if a family member raises a concern about an 87 year old , DMV should test them .
Meanwhile DMV ( in another state ) did nothing when I voiced concerns about my MIL’s ability to drive safely .