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Nacy, GOOD.
There are folks here to intervene if needed.
If she doesn't wish to go to ER anymore she shouldn't have to.
You can't be responsible for everything here. Let it go.
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nacy - hush, girl, You can't fix everything. I'm glad you are staying out of it. You obviously care for your mom's wellbeing and already do a lot for her. Like you say, you are not POA and it's POA's job to make that call.
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Mom, told me not to come over she is fine, and doesn't want to expose me more

Which reading though the lines means, she is sicker and doesn't want me around because she knows I will take her to ER or call 911.

Sence I'm not POA , I'm just going to stay out of it .
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I agree, just found out POA brother is not coming around this weekend.

I think he is getting his espogus scrapped again, so understandable but, if mom gets sicker he is going to have to figure out something.

I'm trying to keep old brother away , because he is starting to feel better from long covid.

I called she said she is no worse. Which is good! I'm going over for a bit at eleven, masked up. Told her that she has to figure out something if she needs more help, I'm only staying for a bit. Lol I'm sure it will end up being longer than a bit.

But I'm going to limit my time and not worry.
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Anxietynacy,

You can’t blame yourself , with the “ should haves”.

Your mother said she wanted to wait until her doctor appt . That was her decision .
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Thanks to all, I'm pretty worried.

I've worked so hard for 4 years trying to keep covid away from my mom, I fought my family tooth and nail, to stay away if you have any symptoms. Made sure she got the vaccine, fought her to get it as soon as it came out . After I suspect that's why my dad kept getting blood clots, after a bad cold the January before shut down, that my brother brought home from Italy. I was a huge covid freak .

This year I just got much more laid back about it. I asked her quite a few times to get the vaccine, and she said she was waiting for doctors appointment, and for them to tell her. I should of pushed it more , I should of told her to call the doctor, then she would of gotten it. I just got so laid back, about covid.

My older brother is with her now, I'm going over around 8 , I don't want my brother to get it either, he is unvaccinated and has had numerous health issues since his bout with it 2 years ago.

Anyways so far I woke up feeling normal. 🤞

Uncle is on hospice, and my sister long time bf is getting his leg amputated today. Ugh
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Well we can at least keep reading your posts on the public threads for now Send. Keep them coming.
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Gershun,
Felt something was wrong. Thanks for telling me!

I get logged out, but I didn't do it.

My posts are deleted.

The problem was the accessibilty widget (little blue man). And my computer was talking to me!

Now, I don't know what is wrong.

Thank you for writing to the admins on my behalf.

This morning (about 9:00 a.m.) on here, I saw posts being deleted.
The Admins have a big job moderating the new posters who have malicious intent and are attempting mayhem.

I think there is an issue with an over-sensitive spam filter.
I think the admins and tech know what they are doing.

I will be back, and keep trying.

I miss all my friends.

Thanks Gershun!
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Nacy: My PCP just gave me the Monovalent. Prayers for your mother.
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Hey Send,

Hope you see this.

Good you are back! I got your PM but still can't send you any PM's back.
Not sure if you are aware of this or not. I sent admin.
a message about this.

It's not an issue with my account. It's still an issue with yours.

Hope things are well. Have missed you.
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TX ,

I agree with Golden . FIL fires the staff , it’s now your husband’s problem to have a moment with his Dad , to tell him that you will not be available to help any longer .

Stop stepping in and being the solution .
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TX - your house, your rules. You do not have to take over from the fired staff. Sounds like a meeting between your hub and his dad is needed. Fil needs that extra help. Who is going to do the shopping, cooking and giving of rides? Make sure it is not you. Does fil have any dementia?

Eva - that info was from Alva not me. I must check if the flu and covid vaccines are here. I missed last year's covid.
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TX think carefully about what the ‘housekeepers won’t do’, so that it DOESN’T ‘fall on you again’. For example, what are you going to do if the housekeepers AREN’T ‘licensed and bonded’. Will FIL let you sack them?

I can’t remember if FIL is in your house. If he is, you call the shots. If he’s not, he makes the decisions, not you, whether you think it’s safe or not. You may need to accept that this is a situation where things have to get worse and fall over before they will change. Sometimes propping them up means that they finally fall on you.
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Nacy,
I hope you will be OK and of course your Mom.
Good reminder to get masks, I wear them during flu seasons which is soon.
Golden,
I think only Moderna is available.
Thank you for letting us know about tests available
I did not know they do flu shot already.
I get sick after shots, for at least 24 hrs, they say it is normal.
Hubby had none of those symptoms.
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Nacy- I hope you're spared. It recently hit my home, and every single one of us got it except for my FIL who lives downstairs. How he escaped it is a miracle, but I'll take it!

My FIL let his caregivers go yesterday. We had 2 wonderful ladies that each came 1 afternoon a week to do laundry, light housekeeping, errands and cook with him. He decided he does not "need all that" and can suffice with just hiring a housekeeper. Husband and I had a deep discussion with him, letting him know the caregivers were licensed, bonded and trained in handling biohazard waste (he's on chemo and has incontinence). Housekeepers may or may not be licensed and bonded, and many that I tried earlier this year declined our home because of his chemotherapy status. Its too risky. But somehow, he found one willing. I had to cancel my volunteer hours at my kids' school tomorrow so that i can be sure to be home when his new hired housekeeper arrives to make sure she is licensed and bonded, and aware that he is on chemo ( I don't trust he told her). I'm beside myself. The caregivers were amazing. They were so so good to him. I know that housekeepers won't do the shopping, or cooking with him, or give him rides. This will fall on me again. My husband and I are in the busy stage of life, with 3 kids in four sports. We are gone most of every day, and almost every week night til 9ish, and most weekends for tournaments and games. I had peace of mind knowing the caregiving company had him covered two days a week. Now I feel hopeless and unheard.
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Hope you don't get sick and your mum recovers quickly. 🙏🙏🙏
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Anxietynacy,

I hope you don’t get sick .. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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I left her, told her my shift was up, set her up with soup and all before I left.

Got it early and the paxlovoivd in her, so will see, day one so not so bad, now
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I just got a test, cold meds for my house, stuff for mom. I'll probably wait for morning to take it. But yeah I definitely need to order those.

And yes I wore, two face mask in the store and stayed far from people. 🙂
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Nacy, sorry to hear this.
Just to let all know, the government passing out free tests again, four of them. Keep them around so you don't have to expose others to Covid.
I got the new booster and didn't even as if Moderna or Pfizer, but sure did react one full day with chills, exhaustion. Didn't get flu shot with it as had that the week before without reaction.
Update us Nacy.
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Nope and she is and I feel stuff, could just be sympathy pains.

Going to drug store now to get her meds and stocked up with everything.

Then I think I'm going to text POA brother and tell him . I'm sick moms sick. Have fun. Lol. Even if my test is negative, lol
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Anxietynacy,

Oh boy . If she coughs a lot that’s not going to make her back feel better .
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She is positive
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Yeah I'm pretty worried, trying to get her to doctors ASAP to get the meds in her. She didn't get her vaccine yet this year


And how the heck am I not gonna get it. And does it even matter, if I was with her all day yesterday?
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I'm sorry, nacy. Hope she is OK.
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Bringing Mom to doctors at 2, cold symptoms started last night. Now fever. I expect covid
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Yes. Send, look up age and PSA levels. There are different levels for different ages.
Be careful also if your loved one is on one of the new generation of blood thinners. They can raise the level exponentially. Happened to my SIL after a blood clot to the lung and being put on these blood thinners. Oddly, when his PSA skyrocketed he said "Any chance this is my new med" and his doc said NOPE. And sure enough when we looked it up it is common.
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It is normal for PSA levels rise as men age. I am not sure that what I was reading was accurate, but normal could be higher, 4.5 or 5.
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Stay safe to all of are friends in Florida! And every in the hurricane area!
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