She doesn't give a care about anyone anymore. She has no idea how much money she has and just keeps spending. Forcing her to move end of June because I can't afford her. She wouldn't sign the Medicaid application and can't afford a care facility or AFH. She only gets $1800/mo. I have no legal powers. Niether brother helping but older one just calling me names and threatening to come take her away but won't. Younger one helping his son's family and does understand what an obstinate, stubborn old woman she can be--he's in Idaho. I am nearly shot mentally. I will find some way out. Have already had a vessel spasm heart attack. Must work M-F 8-5 and won't work 2 jobs 24/7. I will not cut her icky toenails nor wait on her. She is untruthful about what she can actually see with her macular degeneration and what she can truly hear. Selective hearing is what she has. I am the only daughter so everyone thought best for me to help. Thanks for listening. Will be free end of June this year. No regrets. No looking back. What set me off today was, I went home for lunch to check her and have coffee with my 2 little dogs she hates, and found she had let the grandkids, each 300lbs plus, clean out the freezer so my mac and cheese lunches were gonzo. Can't buy any more groceries until she pays me her part of the rent...LATE. I don't care if I sound spoiled or not. She is two-faced and passive aggressive I didn't recognize those as negative personality traits in myself until I learned I had those during Myers-Briggs training in the military. She speaks disparigingly to my daughter and other family members within ear shod about me often. Then how do I be nice to her after that? Just want to be alone. Also learned I am an introvert in M-B training. It has been very helpful.
I can tell why you picked your screen name. It is so hard living with our older patents at times.
Do you know her reason for not signing the Medicaid application? That would open so many doors for her with extra money for a facility.
It sounds like she's definitely moving in June, so that will hopefully put you back where you need to be financially.
Has she always been a spender and irresponsible or is this new behavior?
You do NOT sound spoiled. You sound as though you've had enough. A Pop-Eye moment, "It's all I can stands, and I can't stands no more." Then the spinach can pops out of his chest. That's where you sound like you are.
Hang in there til June-only 2+ months left.
Your mother sounds as though she has dementia and needs to be in a care center. Where is she going to live after she leaves your domicile?
If she gets along better with your brother (or maybe just because he's a man) she may listen to him about finances. Or he may need to get guardianship.