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My dysfunctional family (my twin sister and mom)caring for my Vietnam vet dad. My dad doesn't get to the doctor, doesn't get his meds, hardly eats at all, and he falls often. He is home alone often, and when Sonia home with him, he still feels alone with nobody to talk to. Mobile home is a real sickening mess with dogpoop, every. How can I help? They are also stealing his money! My dad doesn't want to live in a assisted living, nor do I want him to!

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Call your local APS and ask them to intervene, based on unsanitary and unhealthy conditions in the living environment. Raise the issue of financial abuse as well; you'll probably be referred to the local police department. Gather all your evidence before you meet with the police; they need documentation in order to pursue a case of financial abuse.
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Now I see that you've posted on an old thread, with this message:

"My dad is being cared for by my twin sister and my mom. They are both thieves and drug user. My dad is a VA WW2 . They are taking his money and not taking him to the doctors, when he has been sick., he has barley eaten a sandwich. What can I do to get them kicked out so I can properly care for him and have a place to stay seeing my boyfriend and I are homeless? "

So, is your father really being mistreated or is it that you and your BF are homeless and need to move in with him, ostensibly to care for him?

As I wrote in my first response, you need to have evidence to prove your accusations. The police aren't going to kick someone out b/c you and your BF are homeless. So, gather your documentation to support the allegations and go to the police.

I think you also should be thinking in terms of providing for yourselves and finding your own homes. If your father is ill, he has enough to deal with w/o having 2 homeless people moving in with him.
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Colleen's other post is here:

https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/Caring-for-my-85-yr-olf-father-WWII-Veteranneed-financial-asst-144567.htm

Is your father both a WW2 and a Vietnam vet? If so, he must be around 90 years old now, right?

Is he both a WW2 and Vietnam Vet?
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He could well be GA if he had a career that spanned 30 years from 43- 73 he could have served in Korea too
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That's what I was thinking; he could have served in more than one conflict. But presumably his daughter would then be about my age - in the 60's or 70's. And she's homeless? If so, there are a lot more problems in this situation than meet the eye.
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Assuming she does exist then she could be relatively a lot younger she might not have been born until as late as 1963 especially if he married a second time
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Phoenix, that's true. I was thinking of someone born around WWII.
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My dad was in World War II, he is 72 and I'm 36. Im going through a nasty divorce(abusive). I left to start over but it's harder then I realized. I will take your advice, I've already started to gather some evidence (papers )I just hope my sister and mom don't read this before I take action. Thanks
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Sweetie - if your dad is 72 and served in WW2 then he was the first and only infant to have ever done do. If your trying to scam your way into a housing situation your gonna have to polish your skills up a bit.
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Should be "done SO" - guess I need to polish up my typing skills.
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RM's right. A 72 year old would have been an interesting solider. I wasn't aware there were baby corps in any of the armed forces.

Do you really think you're fooling us?
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WW2 ended Sep 2 1945 almost 71 years ago having started for USA on 7 December 1941 after Pearl Harbour although soldiers were around before then and your dad is 72 meaning he was conceived in 1943 and born 1944 or thereabouts. now I really don't want to be the one to break the bad news but America had an Infantry Corps not an Infants Corps ....see there is actually a difference
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Well my dad wasn't in my life till I was 16 year's old. I'm ask my dad more info... He was in Vietnam ,he says he had his 21st birthday there, and that he was a bastardized child. He also said he could of drank (alcohol ) there without having to have his birthday there. He just told me as I write this that he was in Vietnam for 6 months, but it felt like 2years!. I'm trying to get info out of him, yet Im being discrete so he doesn't wonder why Im asking questions. So Im sorry about giving the wrong info I just didn't know. I still want to know how can I get paid to care give for him, and how can I legally evict his exam wife and daughter (who northerner have ever paid rent or helped around the house (instead they have stolen his money and I've got proof from the bank `chase`.
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