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In the past year or so my father has started watching porn videos on his computer. He has always had a tendency to get obsessed about something and now it is porn. In the past 3 months both a cleaner and a home health agency told me they refuse to service him anymore because he touches the workers and shows them the naked women on his computer. Would you recommend taking away his computer or handling this another way? Home health made his doctor aware of his behavior last week with the nurse. My father has not been diagnosed with dementia or any mental health issues yet.

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What's very common with dementia is something known as ISB or Inappropriate Sexual Behavior, which is what your father is exhibiting. There is medication available to 'curb his appetite' so to speak. You need to call his PCP and alert him to what's going on. Your dad needs an evaluation for dementia/Alzheimer's and you can go from there.

If you take away his computer, he can likely find more porn on his tv set if he has cable.

I wouldn't be threatening him with jail time for sexual harassment if it were me. I'd find the source of what's happening to him instead. Denying his wrongdoing and being argumentative/not believing what's being said to him are all signs of dementia as well. So if he's suffering from this, he's not realizing that what he's doing is not 'socially acceptable.' In his mind, it's perfectly fine and it will STAY perfectly fine until medicine helps him think differently.

Wishing you the best of luck.
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What does he say when you tell him that he is going to go to jail for sexual harassment?

Has anyone told him to stop and that his behavior is unacceptable?
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Waterfallz May 2020
He wouldn’t believe it if I suggested he could be charged with sexual harassment. He denies doing these things to me. The home health director said that often elderly men his age don’t realize what they are doing.
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I agree, he has seemed to have lost his filter. This is a sign of Dementia. Being inappropriate with a Drs nurse in a public setting, is a sign.
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Waterfallz May 2020
Thank you!
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Can his computer magically break? Or could he just get another? Probably need to discuss this with his doctor.
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Waterfallz May 2020
It honestly doesn’t work that well because he clicks on everything. I think we will tell him it is broken and hope he doesn’t find a way to get another. He doesn’t have a smart phone. Hopefully we get by with this till we see the doctor again. Thank you!
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