Tell me more about your experience with loved one becoming anxious when they find you are not there with them. My mom gets up and down a lot at night. She commented last night that she was afraid? I’m right down the hall in next bedroom. Now I’m beginning to see we have entered a new phase. Of course she is scared when she may not see me or remember. Besides being right beside her at all times…what have you found helpful if you have experiences this?
Best of luck to you.
I am very specific as to where I am going, and about how long I expect to be gone. He still uses his phone and does often check on my whereabouts
I would put a small hand bell by the bed, so that if she is scared, she can ring it, and you can go to her to reassure her. This could work great after only a few rings of the bell, or it could turn into a non-stop ringing that drives you crazy. It worked well in our family. If you have never felt anxiety, it is horrible!!! I went the first 40 years of my life NEVER having that feeling, but I developed Celiac Disease, and anxiety is part of that condition. It is a fear like you opened your front door, and someone is standing there with a gun pointed at you. It is bad, so anything you can do to help her, will be good for both of you.
Best of luck!
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1. I would discuss with MD re medication.
2. Research sundowners
3. Get her a cat or dog that moves like a real one that she can hold and cuddle.
They are very realistic and may comfort her.
Found this by goggling:
To calm dementia patients at night, establish a consistent bedtime routine and reduce evening stimulation by dimming lights, turning off the TV, and keeping the room quiet and cool. Address basic needs like pain, thirst, or bathroom trips, and use reassuring touches.
For a comprehensive approach to managing evening agitation, consider these localized strategies:
Optimize the Environment:
Close curtains or blinds to avoid confusing shadows and outdoor reflections. Set up soft, motion-activated nightlights in the bedroom and hallway to prevent disorientation and reduce falls.
Play Soothing Sounds: Softly play nature sounds (like ocean waves) or gentle, familiar music to mask sudden, startling household noises.
Manage Daytime Habits: Ensure they receive plenty of bright, natural sunlight during the day and limit long afternoon naps to help reset their internal circadian rhythm. Mayo Clinic
Remove Diet Triggers:
Restrict caffeine, sugar, and alcohol to morning hours.
Mayo Clinic
Provide Comfort Items: Use a favorite blanket or soft, stuffed animal, and consider calming aromatherapy like lavender to promote relaxation.
Consult Medical Professionals: If wandering or agitation persists, speak to a doctor to rule out underlying issues like urinary tract infections or medication side effects.
For more strategies on managing late-day confusion, visit the Alzheimer's Association or review the Mayo Clinic Sundowning Guide.
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