Not sure how to keep him from it and he also loses his drinks and puts things up and swears that someone else did it but he also will go for walks and he likes to bring home things out of other peoples trash he brought home a xmas tree and lamps with no cords how do i stop this or what should i say without making him upset
Some of the most workable are hard to implement, as I've discovered.
If your father doesn't have a simple to use cell phone, get one for him. He doesn't need a Smartphone, just comething he can use. Consumer Cellular has very reasonable plans without any contract requirement. If you or your father are an AARP member, you can get a slight discount on the monthly cost.
I typed then printed labels which we attach to Dad's cell phone with (a) speed dial instructions and (b) my phone numbers and those of his church friends. If confusion sets in and the speed dial instructions become confusing, he still has real phone numbers to call.
Of course, he'll have to turn it on and that's often the stumbling block.
Perhaps you can find some way to share your enthusiasm for his walks so that he'll tell you when he goes and returns. Let him share the pleasure he gets from the walks and he'll be more likely to tell you about them. Go with him if you can.
That's the arrangement we have. Dad also generally goes in the evening or weekends when the neighbors are at home.
I have a med alert pendant for him which he now wears everywhere. As I wrote in another post, the GPS tracking for "wander management" isn't as advanced as some life alert companies represent it to be, but I still think a med alert pendant is a must for seniors whether they're susceptible to wandering or falling.
Losing household things is something we have and are still dealing with. When it happens, I tell Dad to wait until the next day when it's easier to find things and not such an urgent or unsettling issue. Sometimes a fresh look is all that's needed. If the items aren't found by the next time I come out I'll search for them. It's not an ideal solution though.
Unfortunately, sometimes it takes a few weeks before they turn up, which is why I always keep additional checks in case they're the missing items.
This isn't an easy situation to resolve but sympathy and understanding helps moderate the anxiety and the frustration of knowing that you can't find things.
I don't have any good answers to the collection of trash issues other than to try and spend time with him on the day the trash is set out so he's otherwise preoccupied. And if you can do, it take the items without his knowing it and put them out with your own trash.
I think this is a Depression Era throwback and that's not something that's going to change easily as survival was ingrained in those who experienced the Great Depression.
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In addition, it would be more comfortable and does not restrict their movements
He may get lost one day on one of his walks. All you can do is prepare for that day and have a plan for him once he's unable to take his walks.
As I was reading your post I was thinking of the movie, "On Golden Pond" with Henry Fonda. I was remembering when Henry Fonda's character, at the beginning of his dementia, took a walk he'd taken a thousand times, and got lost. Good movie.
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