Just not sure what is the best thing to do. Should I be there waiting for her (room is decorated a bit with some of her favourite items and hospital bed) or should I just leave her with staff to get situated on her own?
She has good days then bad days, been a long hospital haul. I’ve seen her about 7 visits, 1 hr each time. She has no will to live, this is it for her.
Help!
We decided to follow ambulance to nursing home. They were just a few minutes ahead of us. When we walked into the room he had gone into cardiac arrest because he choked on food from his feeding tube because the paramedics did not keep him elevated. The CNA said they don't perform CPR and do we think they should call 911. HELLO are they really that stupid.
There we go back to the hospital that he should never have been discharged from in the firstplace. He did not survive much longer after this.
Yes I would be there.
I try to tell myself that everything happens for a reason ... my mom's situation was not the fault of, but very exasperated by, the lockdown of her AL facility. She was extremely dehydrated and hadn't been eating enough - had a fall, ended up delirious and incoherent. She's bounced back a little but ... so many bad decisions have been made (by her and others, and probably by me too) ... what can you do??
Hope all is well with you. Take care.
My own experience moving from hospital to rehab left me in a transfer chair in an empty room (no bed) for many hours without needed medication and without permission or assistance to use the bathroom b/c the facility "had not received instructions" yet. I was told I might get medication or bathroom assistance the next day. I was outraged and desperate.
i did not have dementia or confusion. I could advocate for myself but my requests were ignored. I would have loved to have had someone there who would raise a fuss until the situation was resolved.
If you are allowed to be there as an advocate to be sure care and medications are in order, by all means be there. During COVID you may not have that opportunity.
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting
Now sis in a better place-moved in the early weeks of covid-i could drop her off that was it. She has declined more from the move and loneliness due to I can not be in the room with her-just window visits. Thankfully, after nearly 5 months, her community is gradually opening for family visits-this week I can sit with her outside with a mask etc. I am so thankful have been wanting and waiting to be with my sister. I know she has felt alone, abandoned unloved during this time-she can not understand covid and the limitations that have been imposed. I hope now we can reconnect finally.
I have seen families bring their person to the current community-stand on the sidewalk as person is unloaded from an ambulance-it was sad to see this-i could feel their pain of not being together with their family member. it was all they were allowed to do at the time. I understand that you and your mother are in a different place emotionally and physically-if it was me I would try to be there for my person to the best of my ability-under trying times and circumstances.
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting
If you could visit, I'd visit.
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting
It's going to be hard on her even if you are there because she will want to go home. You will not be able to check her skin for bedsore (happens all the time in nursing homes), bruises, and so on. The bad thing about no visitors--the patients are at the nursing home's mercy.
I visited the next day, bad day for her though. Staff told me today that she is making them laugh, some tears still.
By the way, I’m in Canada (Nova Scotia) and many covid restrictions are easing up. Masks and PPE were used to decorate her room. Now I await visitation appointments.
My cousin dropped her mother at the nursing home and told her she will be back to pick her up. She did not go back for a week. Her mother was so upset, both did not speak kindly to each other for a few years. The relationship got somewhat better, but never the same. She died a few years later. Call the director and ask if it would be ok and safe for you to be there, she should give you instructions. Give her as much support as possible. This will be a huge adjustment for all, especially your mother. Hope your mother adjusts quickly and gets her will to live back. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting
So, I would try to be there. I know there are those who say loved ones settle in better when you aren't there and you should leave them for two weeks. I strongly disagree with that but like I said I'm basing my answer on my own experience.
Good luck to you and your mom!
Very good advice. Your post shows a lot of empathy and kindness. It was a good read.
Andrew Cuomo the governor of NYS with immunity form prosecution, allowed hospitals with positive cases to be sent to nursing homes and assisted living facility with hardly any PPE and no testing facility and staff leaving , infecting my wife and over 40,000 poor seniors with the terrible virus. He had the navy medical ship comfort and the javits center and a huge center in NJ. He not use then only to send the patient to their death He made sure his mother was taken out of the assisted living home before he sent the order out to move these hospital patients to nursing families and assisted living..
I want ever family to know how unprepared these faculties,were and the way NYS governor took my wife life away and the terrible way she passed away. I am on a mission to have Cuomo be pay for his maleficent action causing the death of our loved. by his actions. I I could would like to know what went through his mind when he did this.
Anyone family has gone what I experienced you must speak out for your loved one whom have died from getting the virus. please call or e-mail you elected officials for the sake of people that were lost because of what he did Please answer this posting