My 85 yr. old mother has been living with my husband and me for about 6 months. Things have been going well, but some days she seems to go off on these tangents of telling stories about the past, all of which are negative. The past that I remember was full of happy times. She remembers little things like some ugly thing a neighbor said about our dog or some other non important thing. I am a very positive person and I try to remind her of the good times we had over the years, but it gets very draining when she gets in one of her negative attitudes.
My mom has 2 arthritic knees and when she first came to my home she was having to walk a lot. She would say mean and awful things to me. Or her mood was really fowl all the time. Now she is transported every where. And she is much calmer and pleasant. She has Hospice and they are all about comfort and care. I am so grateful for their support. She is provided with medication that help her. It's all about finding the right mix...If she doesn't have pain then I guess the best thing to do then is walk away and take in some fresh air and a new perspective. Because the disease is what is making them this way. They have no control over their brains activity anymore. Good luck and God Bless.