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My elderly friend who is 89, lives alone, always pays his bills on time, is very independent, lives in a senior citizen building. His super in the building befriended him and started taking him to do his errands. Now the super for the building has POA. He transfered all my friend's money to himself  to buy a house in Florida and buy car for himself.  Then when all this was done, put him in a nursing home after taking his apartment and doing away with his stuff. My friend is crying, wants to go back to his home and I am trying to help him. They took away his phone. To talk to him, one has to go to the operator, and the person that runs the nursing home is a relative of the super. So she's keeping an eye on him. When he gets a call, she brings the phone to him and sits beside him while he talks. I need to help my friend, pleading for advice.

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IMO, the POA cannot take all the persons money and then expect to place the person in a NH on Medicaid. Medicaid will ask for back statements and will be able to see the person has been stolen from. A person cannot be put in a NH without fitting certain criteria and with a Doctor signing off. And if he is privately paying, he is not being stolen from.

Yes, you need to contact Adult Protection Services.
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Martinlynforsur Apr 2022
Thanks for responding,when my friend came from the hospital, he could not get home health aid because of his pension and social security was too high, so the super said he and his wife would take care of him objection was made to him about that ,he says my friend does not have money to pay the church where he goes response was we will help with the payments and some could come from the pension and social security, that was not done,the super relative that runs the nursing home was able to get him four hours , the super who has POA refused to pay for the extra 4 hours ,i don't know which of the services was paying those four hours,iwill be going to see him today,all he is saying he did not know the guy could be so wicked and all the paper was sign when he was sick.
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It's POA (Power of Attorney) not POW (Prisoner of War). Although I understand why he feels that way.
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Call Adult Protective Services in his area and tell them the story.
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Martinlynforsur Apr 2022
Thanks for you response ,I will do that.
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Call APS and report as a Senior at Risk, and give them all of your EVIDENCE of this. They will check on the POA. This should have been as soon as you had evidence of wrong doing. I am uncertain how you got all these reports on what was happening? Was it from the elder involved? Because if he was competent and knew all of this he could have easily taken away the POA.
In any case, call APS in your area.
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Martinlynforsur Apr 2022
Thanks for responding, my friend was doing everything for himself cooking cleaning ,shopping going to church playing the guitar for us doing his banking for himself paying his bill on-time until the pandemic hit 2020 ,this is my friend for about 40 years he was active we talk everyday and he told me the super was taking him to places where he coluld gets free services the next thing I know he was in social security office,he was very happy to be coming out of the house.He was not a threat to himself, he has his own one bedroom apartment which he was quite comfortable, he should have been allowed to stay there ,he said he does not belong in a nursing home ,so he's very upset with the super ,all he saying I should help him to get out of the nursing home all his personal property he said he has no idea what happened to them.
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Each state has an Elder Abuse Hotline number. Find that number and call and report the abuse.
If there is a local Senior Center in your area they probably have a Social Worker that can help as well. The Social Worker would be a "mandated reporter" of any abuse so it would get reported to the proper office for the area you are in.
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Martinlynforsur Apr 2022
Thanks for your correction. I will look to locate a social worker, who is able to help him
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Martinlynforsur, is your friend telling you all of this? Just wondering if your friend has developed memory issues, as I am wondering if what he has been telling you isn't actually happening. "Story telling" is common when it comes to dementia.
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