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She doesn't want to be there, I don't want her there and now whenever I call to speak to her or checkup on her they stonewall me.

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mattchu668, a nursing home would not have taken in your Mom unless they felt she needed around the clock care. There comes a time when it takes a village to care for one person.

If you bring her back home, what type of "village" will you have for her care. There is no way that one person can work 168 hours a week. Please note that up to 40% of caregivers die leaving behind the love one they were caring. Then what would your Mom do?

Plus your home, or her home, would need to be set up like that of a nursing home, such as a hospital bed, etc. I suggest you spend 48 hours with your Mom, if the nursing home allows that, to see all that is needed to care for her.
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Who placed her in the nursing home?
And why?
If mom is cognizant AND she has a safe place to go she can ask to be discharged. If she is there for rehab of some sort she should complete rehab to the best of her ability.

IF mom is NOT cognizant and she was placed there by her Guardian or spouse or a person that has POA then you can not get her out unless you go to court and apply for Guardianship. If she has a spouse, Guardian or person acting in her best interest you will have to prove that you are a better candidate for providing her care. You will also have to prove that you can SAFELY care for her and you should have a Care Plan in place that will detail how you plan on caring for her.
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Per your profile, your mother is 68 y.o. with mobility problems and is living in a nursing home.

How did she come to live in the nursing home? Who put her there? Does she have cognitive issues? Since she has mobility problems, who will take care of her once she comes home?

More information would be helpful.
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Yes, we need more information.

Was she hospitalized and sent to rehab? If rehab, how long has she been there?

Is being there putting a strain on her finances?

Is there someone, other than you, overseeing her care. If there is a POA that usually doesn't come into effect unless Mom has been found incompetent to make her own decisions.

If she is actually in a Nursing home, why was she placed there?

For a NH to discharge someone it has to be a safe discharge. Meaning if they are deemed 24/7 care they have to show there will be someone with them 24/7. That the home is safe.
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Your profile states:

"I am caring for my mother Joan, who is 68 years old, living in a nursing home with mobility problems.

If she's living in a nursing home, there had to be arrangements made for her to be there, and someone had to sign for her, and someone or some entity had to pay for her residency.

Who is that person, or entity?   If you signed a contract, what does it provide for removal of a resident, and/or termination or suspension of the contract?  

This is how to get her out:  address how and why she got in, and what the contract documents provide to change that situation.

And if you're not able to speak to her, contact the Administrator and ask why.  If that doesn't work, call the local Ombudsperson and ask for some assistance.
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