We increased my mother's aricept and I think now she is more argumentative and harder to get along with. The taking of a shower is still a big issue and today she said she wanted to bathe at night before bed. So we are going to give this a go. I asked the Care Director what would happen if she refused for weeks and she said if it became a health issue it would be a problem. Can they move her?
As far as can they move her because of that, I suppose they can, but it may depend on where you live. You can check with the long-term care ombudsman for that area at ltcombudsman.org. Type in the AL Zip code. These people are experts on such topics.
Take care,
Carol
I was once in a hospital where I begged for a bath and they looked at me like I was nuts. This was a teaching hospital, for God's sake and they thought I was nuts for wanting a bath over a shower.
I have been told all my life not to get any water in my ears, as I am prone to infections and am now deaf in one ear and still must guard against infection, but every time some idiot INSISTS they will help me wash my hair and not get any water in them, the VERY FIRST thing they do is pour a bunch of water right into them. I think if I EVER end up in some facility (which I doubt, as they will likely kill me within days by ignoring my food allergies), I will just shave my head and keep it that way.
"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
-Martin Luther King, Jr.
Mom had to go on Assisted living status mainly to regulate her meds but still lives in a senior apt wing with my dad. She obsesses about not liking the baths they take her to even though they call it a "spa"- They leave the door open, people walk by and look in, so she says. I ask her to shower when I visit and ask Dad to do the same. Got her nice soap and lotions and cloths and a fluffy robe to sink into when she finished. Seemed to help.