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broken brain broken brain broken brain....i have been watching dementia with grace all weekend....i understand a lot more than i did before...but there has been something everyday...some huge fight....my friend noticed her with a knife in the livingroom while watching tv with us...she raises her cane to hit us eveyday...she grabbed me yesterday...and swore it was me who grabbed her..i didnt argue...i tried to change subject and get me sum sheets to change her bed...didnt work...i have a koi pond...she poured out my fishfrye(babies)..i gave her a pitcher full of beautiful fake roses and greenery...first time shes upset with me she throws them in garbage..the toilet had poop all over seat...all way down front all way to the floor with a huge pile on the floor..doc says she sneaks sweets and her meds get it out of her system by pooping it out..thats why she has runny stools...

Diarrhea is the least of the problem in your situation.

Here is your prior post...

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/how-do-you-handle-it-all-my-mother-in-law-has-dementia-stage-4-kidney-disease-diabetes-incontinence--498777.htm

You were given excellent and consistent advice to this question. Why are you continuing to allow yourself to be taken advantage of by your BF and subjected to abuse by this demented women to whom you are not related? The only winner here is your BF.
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You don't share with us who "she" is and why you're living with her, but if it were me I would just move out if it's her house or get her out if it's yours.
And most definitely get Adult Protective Services involved either way as they can help you get her placed and take over her care.
This woman needs to be in the appropriate facility where she won't be allowed to live in such filth. You shouldn't be living that way either as that is definitely a biohazard.
This has NOTHING to do with this woman's diarreaha or changing doctors but getting this woman the help she so desperately needs in the appropriate facility so you both can live in peace and not in poop.
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Christyboo62 Jun 8, 2026
you dont understand...my apologies...
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This is cruel to both you and the person with dementia. Neither of you should be living in this unsafe, unhealthy situation. Your boyfriend should be reported for elderly neglect. I’m sorry you cannot see this awful situation for both of you clearly
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Christy, with her violent temperament and an available knife, she could murder you or anyone else. She needs help and so do you. Don’t wait until she kills you! Take some of the good suggestions you’ve been given and get her out, what ever you have to do. Let us know how it goes, and good luck.
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im sorry i thought this would connect to my other forum (how do you handle it)....
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MG8522 15 hours ago
Christy, you handle it by leaving your boyfriend who is neglecting his mother and abusing you. Go to your local women's shelter now and tell them you are leaving a domestic abuse situation. They will help you.
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You are living in a bad situation. Get her placed in a facility. They will handle her sweets that cause GI issues.
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This could be Microscopic Colitis, Collagenous Colitis or Lymphocytic Colitis.

The only way to diagnose this is biopsies of the intestines via colonoscopy which I would not subject someone in her age to.

Many times this is caused by prescription meds and is a side effect. Talk to her doctor about any prescription drugs that list loose stool as a side effect that may be causing this.

Pepto Bismol tablets (up to 8 a day); prescription budesonide, or prescription cholestyramine are effective against this.

Candy should be discontinued. Foods like chicken, rice, overcooked mushy veggies are best, bananas are good too.
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