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The caregiver has made chicken cutlets and pasta and brought in for my parents. She told them she was going to stop and get a cake for them. she has bought tennis balls for my father’s walker. Is this ok?

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Why not? She sounds thoughtful.
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Reply to Tiredniece23
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Sounds like she cares, which is very sweet.
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Reply to Anxietynacy
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if it’s her gifting, yeah it’s ok.
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auntreky20, welcome to the forum. It's not unusual for a hired caregiver to bring in things for their client to enjoy. Especially if the client is easy to work for and really shows signs of appreciation.


My Dad's weekday and also his weekend caregivers were great. The weekday caregiver would stop and get Dad a breakfast meal from a fast-food place. Dad's weekend caregiver would cook from scratch and box up items for the freezer for Dad's weekday caregiver to use. She would also bring over left-overs from their own family dinner, and her sisters would make bake goods for "Mr. Bob" to enjoy. Dad loved all of this :)


I tried to pay for the food, but the caregivers said "no", it was their threat.
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Is this a caregiver you have hired?
Is she expected to cook for your parents?
Does she cook what they want/need and are the groceries provided?
I would discuss this with the caregiver or her facility and ask them this question.
The tennis ball things is, imho, just a nothing. Anyone might have these available who does care. They are typically used and very cheap.
But food is expensive.
So again, this is to discuss with her agency if hired through one, or with her.

When you have a caregiver you hire yourself you generally define just what your expectations are of meals, cooking, how much, how often, and what they are comfortable making of the suggest menu. Then the grocery shopping is done by the caregiver with the person they care for, or done as part of hourly duties.

So I think the important thing here is define what YOU WANT THE CAREGIVER TO DO.
Or what the caregiver thinks he/she IS doing.
Because at the end of month you really don't want a shopping bill landing on the table.

Just openly discuss, good luck, and hope you'll update us.
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Reply to AlvaDeer
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I see no harm in it but I would watch if the aide starts taking too much control or asks for something in return.
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