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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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I haven't met anyone who really knows what honoring parents means. To me it means to live in a way that makes them proud of you. For children it may mean to obey them. I think we get to a point in life that obedience doesn't make a lot of sense. If they led good lives, it would be okay to follow their lead.
I do not think that this means to sacrifice overly for them when they get older. I do think that care is a good thing. It doesn't mean we have to do everything with them or do everything for them. Life doesn't work like that. To me an adult's obligation goes down the line to their own children. What is given up the line is not an obligation, but is done out of love and caring.
I had the same problem with my divorced mother. major holidays were the worst time when we just wanted to be with other family or friends. I once had to ask my in laws to invite her because she was pulling the poor me I don't know how I am going to spend the holiday. She actually did have friends she could have gone to. One time we actually went to my father and stepmother and that caused a major pity party. most we did not tell he if we were going some where as she did not live close enough to know we had gone. Of course you don't have to include her in everything but be kind about it
I feel if you would have included her before, you may want to include her now. She probably has good memories of past times, and would enjoy new ones. However, if you are going to do things with the ILs she would not have done prior, then just be quiet about it!
I'm a widowed mom. I'm always pleased when my family wants to include me in their doings -- grandchild invited me to their barbecue this weekend. I'm supposed to be taking it easy and I got offered the lounge chair and a pillow. This was from the husband of the daughter of the daughter of my late husband. (My step-grandson-inlaw?) Isn't that sweet?
But I do not expect to be included in all their family events.
My sister is a terrific hostess. Often she invites me to her parties. Sometimes her parties are limited to her (large) immediate family. I don't get into a snit when I'm not invited.
I'd be very hurt if I were excluded from a wedding or other formal family event. But other than that, I find it perfectly natural that family events get configured in many different ways, some of which will not include me.
How recently was your mom widowed? How long has she been in IL? I can tell you from experience that the path toward a new normal is not a short nor easy one! Adjusting to being a widow takes time.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I do not think that this means to sacrifice overly for them when they get older. I do think that care is a good thing. It doesn't mean we have to do everything with them or do everything for them. Life doesn't work like that. To me an adult's obligation goes down the line to their own children. What is given up the line is not an obligation, but is done out of love and caring.
Of course you don't have to include her in everything but be kind about it
But I do not expect to be included in all their family events.
My sister is a terrific hostess. Often she invites me to her parties. Sometimes her parties are limited to her (large) immediate family. I don't get into a snit when I'm not invited.
I'd be very hurt if I were excluded from a wedding or other formal family event. But other than that, I find it perfectly natural that family events get configured in many different ways, some of which will not include me.
How recently was your mom widowed? How long has she been in IL? I can tell you from experience that the path toward a new normal is not a short nor easy one! Adjusting to being a widow takes time.