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I really feel like I need some help taking care of mom, the house, myself, working. I just found out I have copd and emphysema and after doing what I have to do not much energy to do chores etc. idk what to do?
It's now time to make yourself a priority and start caring for you. If you don't, you will end up dying before your mom does. With all of moms issues it's probably time to be looking into placing her in the appropriate facility, where she can get the 24/7 care she requires, and you can get your health issues addressed and taken care of. The added stress of all the care your mom requires only makes your health issues worse, so again, it's time to put you first. Best wishes.
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. You realize that you can’t do everything that needs to be done, so you’re one step ahead of the game. Start looking at facilities nearby. Once you find a suitable place, you will be able to relax more and focus on your own needs.
Your mom has a long list of conditions, no wonder you’re exhausted. Please look into a place for her to get professional care, and look after your own health. This isn’t giving up on mom, it’s caregiving in a way that will allow you to oversee her care, doing less hours and hands on, and guarding your future. Wish you both the best with the changes ahead
You need to place your Mom. Your condition will only worsen if you continue trying to do what you do. If she has no money you can get Medicaid to pay for her care. Be aware, that her SS will go towards her care.
Wow, your mom has a long list of issues, especially for 72. Yikes. I thought my 78 yo mom was winning the "old for her age" award but looks like your mom might be in the running too. Not an award we want to be trying to win.
I agree with others that it's time to place your mom. This is too much and your health is suffering. Don't wait until you get worse.
Good wisdom from those who have posted. I would only add that you make sure that both YOU and your mom have DPoAs in place, healthcare directives (Living Wills) and Last Wills. A 2-hr consult with an elder law attorney/estate planner will be an excellent investment, especially one who is familiar with Medicaid planning, since many hard-working and financially responsible people are now outliving their assets.
It will be important to know exactly what financial resources your mom has, as this will somewhat dictate where to look for either a facility or start with some in-home help. Care is expensive but being well-informed is your best strategy. Wishing much success in planning and peace in your daily life.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
With all of moms issues it's probably time to be looking into placing her in the appropriate facility, where she can get the 24/7 care she requires, and you can get your health issues addressed and taken care of. The added stress of all the care your mom requires only makes your health issues worse, so again, it's time to put you first. Best wishes.
I agree with others that it's time to place your mom. This is too much and your health is suffering. Don't wait until you get worse.
It will be important to know exactly what financial resources your mom has, as this will somewhat dictate where to look for either a facility or start with some in-home help. Care is expensive but being well-informed is your best strategy. Wishing much success in planning and peace in your daily life.