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Agree, have this criminal arrested. Too much slack is giving to family members behaving badly. This is not a caregiver management problem; it is a criminal matter. Talk to all the previous caregivers and find 2-3 willing to talk to the police and press charges. This is outrageous. And you've known about it for how long?? After the first one, you put seven others in jeopardy, hoping he wouldn't do it again. Maybe YOU should be arrested for abetting. For pete's sake,WISE UP.
Until thing settle down, perhaps put MIL in nursing home for a few weeks. Obviously with FIL out of the way, living in her own home means 24/7 caregiving by family and other caregivers. Of course, if he is let out on bail, he'll return. You might ask yourself "What would Adult Protective Services" do if this problem was reported to them, by perhaps one of the many abused caregivers. You, your husband (why isn't he over there pummeling his father into behaving?), other family members...now is the time to rally and get this handled.
The FIL can be assessed for dementia, mental unstability, mental illness. It could be he has a form of dementia that results in outrageous behavior, or perhaps he's been an SOB for his entire life. Get your MIL some stable care temporarily into your house, an assisted living or nursing home facility. She's probably been abused by his anger too. She deserves some peace in her final years.
GOOD LUCK!! You have a tough one. When stuff like this comes up, I personally turn into THE HULK. It took me awhile to wake up that my motley assortment of sisters and nieces/nephews were dangerous by society's standards. Pit bulls, meth addicts, prostitute, pedophile predator, and finally sisters who forged Mom's checks, used her CC, didn't repay loans.
Oh, but let's bring them over for Christmas and holidays, cause they are too lazy to clean their own house. I caught bloody hell for kicking out the jerks. Not one has ever owned up to their behavior nor apologized. Still write me with a "HOWDY, How's things goin? LuvSue" Like this friendly subject line absolves their behavior.
Well, didn't want to get into my own drama. But sometimes caring for a dependent frail senior, one has to clean house of the scum.DANGER DANGER DANGER... I did, and at a big personal price. Mom was "conserved" and now "I" am 24/7 under the control of the public guardian....and I was the one to report them! None of the perpetrators got slapped with so much as a lecture, and they all have rights to visit, though I was a pain in the butt so much they limited hours and # of people at one time. This did eventually stop the house being used as their social hall (ignoring Mom, of course).
1. Have Father in Law evaluated if this is not life long behavior and get him some help 2. If this is life long behavior get Mother in law a new place to live or 3. Get a big, burly male caregiver
sounds like he needs to be arrested for trying to mollest the caregivers . if i was trying to do my job and he does that to me , i be callin the police . teachers gets arrested for molesting students etc so forth , that man needs to be put away before he ends up doing something seroise.
I would say your FIL is lucky he hasn't been sued. If he is senile and doing this maybe he should be claimed incompetent - if not I would talk to a lawyer for advise, to keep your MIL assets safe in case he is sued. He really needs help!
put him away/separate him from his wife while the home attendant is taking care of her/ send him to an adult day care center/senior citizen center for him to be occupied while the home attendant is doing her job ....or he will be arrested /maybe cut of the home attendant hours just to 2-4 hours daily maybe that could her and keep him outside the house while the home attendant is there. tell him to stop of he will face criminal charges/ have a police talk to him to scare him for good, maybe??????
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Until thing settle down, perhaps put MIL in nursing home for a few weeks. Obviously with FIL out of the way, living in her own home means 24/7 caregiving by family and other caregivers. Of course, if he is let out on bail, he'll return. You might ask yourself "What would Adult Protective Services" do if this problem was reported to them, by perhaps one of the many abused caregivers. You, your husband (why isn't he over there pummeling his father into behaving?), other family members...now is the time to rally and get this handled.
The FIL can be assessed for dementia, mental unstability, mental illness. It could be he has a form of dementia that results in outrageous behavior, or perhaps he's been an SOB for his entire life. Get your MIL some stable care temporarily into your house, an assisted living or nursing home facility. She's probably been abused by his anger too. She deserves some peace in her final years.
GOOD LUCK!! You have a tough one. When stuff like this comes up, I personally turn into THE HULK. It took me awhile to wake up that my motley assortment of sisters and nieces/nephews were dangerous by society's standards. Pit bulls, meth addicts, prostitute, pedophile predator, and finally sisters who forged Mom's checks, used her CC, didn't repay loans.
Oh, but let's bring them over for Christmas and holidays, cause they are too lazy to clean their own house. I caught bloody hell for kicking out the jerks. Not one has ever owned up to their behavior nor apologized. Still write me with a "HOWDY, How's things goin? LuvSue" Like this friendly subject line absolves their behavior.
Well, didn't want to get into my own drama. But sometimes caring for a dependent frail senior, one has to clean house of the scum.DANGER DANGER DANGER... I did, and at a big personal price. Mom was "conserved" and now "I" am 24/7 under the control of the public guardian....and I was the one to report them! None of the perpetrators got slapped with so much as a lecture, and they all have rights to visit, though I was a pain in the butt so much they limited hours and # of people at one time. This did eventually stop the house being used as their social hall (ignoring Mom, of course).
2. If this is life long behavior get Mother in law a new place to live or
3. Get a big, burly male caregiver
if i was trying to do my job and he does that to me , i be callin the police .
teachers gets arrested for molesting students etc so forth , that man needs to be put away before he ends up doing something seroise.
He really needs help!