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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Hi...Well my mom has finally been accepted for a nursing home. She will go on Wednesday. I feel like I'm being selfish for wanting to live my own life and not have to care for her anymore. Is this normal.
These feelings are normal. The stress on a 24/7 caregiver is huge. Just remember, every 8 hours at a nursing home, fresh employees come on duty. So 3 people will be doing the job that you did. You aren't superwoman. No one is. You have done your best. That's all anyone can do. You aren't selfish. You are human. Bless your heart.
Marie, what you're feeling is very normal. Just think, though -- she's going to be safe and happy...see a bunch of smiling faces every day to see to her needs...attend special programs once a week or so...make some friends...pick her meals from an abbreviated menu...see a magic show here and there...a singer rehearsing his craft...get her hair done regularly...and see Marie all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed pretty darned often. Bringing her some little surprises to brighten her days.
It'll be okay, Marie. What you've done for your mom so far is Pink Angel's Work. What you're doing for her now by making this difficult decision? That's the white one.
I'm a long distance caregiver for my parents. They would never move 600 miles to my area and I decided long ago that I was not going to uproot my life and move back home to be a full time caregiver. Thankfully, my folks have never expected this from me, but I get the guilt pangs once in a while. I travel to check on things quite often and I know I'll be spending quite a bit more time with them as things worsen. You and I and our parents will get through this and knowing that we care and are doing our best for them, each in our own way, helps me carry on without the guilt.
I understand how you feel. I just took my dad to assisted living today. It has been a tough decision, my head knows its the right thing to do for his safety and 24/7 care as needed. Now if i can just get my heart to agree. My plan for the next couple weeks is to do a lot of the things i couldn't do while being his caregiver, like còoking food I couldn't with him here, being out of the house for more then an hour or two at a time, or as silly as it sounds running to grocery store at the time i would normally be wakeing him up, making sure he is dressing properly and changing his wet bed. I will still there to visit everyday and make sure all is going well with his care. I hope what was said to me will help you as you get closer to her move.... once you are no longer dealing with the day to day stress of caregiver, it will be like getting your mom back. When you spend time with her it will be for conversations and social time. You will get to spend time with her without stress. good luck as you move closer to moving days. You will shed a few tears, and doubt your decision more then once. Just remember like the old saying it takes a village to raise a child, it takes that same village to care for our parents as they age and can no longer care for themselves.
Mom is all settled in...She is doing great and seems very happy. This makes me feel much better. The guilt is still there but I'm doing ok with it. She is in a brand new facility and it is absolutely beautiful. Only a 3 minute drive from my home. Thanks everyone, you all helped the guilt feel not so bad as it was.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It'll be okay, Marie. What you've done for your mom so far is Pink Angel's Work. What you're doing for her now by making this difficult decision? That's the white one.
I hope what was said to me will help you as you get closer to her move.... once you are no longer dealing with the day to day stress of caregiver, it will be like getting your mom back. When you spend time with her it will be for conversations and social time. You will get to spend time with her without stress.
good luck as you move closer to moving days. You will shed a few tears, and doubt your decision more then once. Just remember like the old saying it takes a village to raise a child, it takes that same village to care for our parents as they age and can no longer care for themselves.