He is forty years old and unable to go out and find a job to care for his teenage daughter because all his time is being put on his mother. He is stressed and wanted to be the care giver for his mother but now know that it is the wrong thing for him to do. He is very emotional and bothers him that he losing his daughter in the process of trying to care for mother. His daughter is now being disrespectful and argumentative because his lack of time being spent with her. He has siblings 2 (men) who refuse to help in so all the responsibility falls on him. Mom is unable to walk so he have to give her the bed pan when needed, bathe etc. and it has become too much to bear. What advice can I give him when it comes to the procedure in putting his mom in a nursing home where she is able to receive the care she so desperately needs.
Has he hired any caregivers from qualified agencies to help with care delivery?
Does his mother qualify for medicaid ? Does she have money to pay for care?
Instead of nursing home what about spending moneys on part time coverage using health care aides?
Being next of kin means nothing so he better have power of attorney. Does he have HPAA approval so doctors can talk with him.
Mom is unable to walk so he have to give her the bed pan when needed, bathe etc.. Are we to assume he lives with his mother or does his mother live with him.
Without knowing which state they live in one can't suggest agencies to get help.
Has he talked with an outreach councelor at local senior center.
Advice: Talk with Dept of Aging (or similar),file for guardianship (if other siblings aren't helping), look into possible respite options in an assisted living (she might be ok for AL) for a month or so to get his bearings aligned, take daughter out for a night and explain the situation and get rest.
Hope that helps.
-Benjamin
More information about this situation will help.
chris
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