I am 78 and in fairly good health, but just had a knee replacement and need the other done, and probably a shoulder in the next couple years. My husband 84 is very healthy but has had Alzheimer’s for 8 years and is in late mid stage. My two sons and families live 40 miles from me, there is a good care facility within a mile of their homes, also an equilivalent home within a couple of miles of me. Would it be better to have him near them, or closer to me. Both sons want to be involved and are wanting him near them. Both feel his care has become too much for me. RP