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Boy you sure need to be counting your blessings here. I can only guess these things aren't mentioned because your loved one no longer remembers them, or they are just so happy to be somewhere where they are now being well taken care of and are glad not to have any responsibilities any more. Either way, enjoy the blessing of that.
The key phrase here is "advanced dementia." Once something is out of sight, it's often out of mind, especially a recent memory.
Mom forgot Dad within three months of his death, went back to high school and took up with her boyfriend from 1944 (even though he died in 2009), and occasionally mentioned our cat that died in 1989. There was no mention of the house she lived in for 50 years and cried at leaving, and her children became mere friendly people, but nothing more.
My Mom never asked about her house or family once she was into her Dementia. IMO, they go back in time and forget the life they had. Their Longterm goes just like the short-term memory. They go back into their childhood. The brain is dying and with it memories.
My Mom was asked one time about her kids. My Mom looked at the person and said "I don't have any kids".
Perhaps your loved one was just that good at compensating for fading memory/cognition until safely in the care home; my mom's own primary doc was amazed at how well she 'covered up' her symptoms to appear 'normal.' When she was still in her home she 'pretended' to do all sorts of things almost out of 'muscle memory', like sit at her kitchen table to 'read the paper' until I realized she wasn't reading at all, but just 'going through the motions.' It's a poignant thing, but can be a blessing as they lose touch with memory (which might bring on sadness/grief/anxiety.)
Ditto to Funkygrandma59's comment. My MIL in a LTC facility doesn't talk about any of her prior life unless we bring it up. She has mild dementia and memory impairment. She stopped asking about her deceased husband this year (thankfully). At quarterly care meetings she will ask when she's "getting out" (not going home).
So much mystery about the brain, isn't there! Although my mom cries and wants to be with her late husband (died 10 years ago, after sudden illness), she never talks about him unless someone else brings up a story about him or mentions him in some way. She has stopped crying at family gatherings, announcing that it is nice to see her family but she wishes she was with him. There may be a peripheral mention of him at family gatherings, but she either doesn't notice it or pretends not to hear it. (She is skilled at not hearing or noticing anything that. might be upsetting to her.)
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Mom forgot Dad within three months of his death, went back to high school and took up with her boyfriend from 1944 (even though he died in 2009), and occasionally mentioned our cat that died in 1989. There was no mention of the house she lived in for 50 years and cried at leaving, and her children became mere friendly people, but nothing more.
My Mom was asked one time about her kids. My Mom looked at the person and said "I don't have any kids".
Although my mom cries and wants to be with her late husband (died 10 years ago, after sudden illness), she never talks about him unless someone else brings up a story about him or mentions him in some way.
She has stopped crying at family gatherings, announcing that it is nice to see her family but she wishes she was with him.
There may be a peripheral mention of him at family gatherings, but she either doesn't notice it or pretends not to hear it. (She is skilled at not hearing or noticing anything that. might be upsetting to her.)