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They don’t include me in anything and I do not want to be the one who makes final decisions if it was to come to that my mom has dementia and has for a number of years and is still at home !
No, you can’t change M’s POA. Only she can do that. Depending on her level of dementia, a Lawyer might help her to do that, if they are sure that she understands what she is doing regarding the change. That isn’t the same as a medical diagnosis.
If that can’t happen, you might make an arrangement with your sister that she can act and you will indemnify her regarding anything that goes wrong. You really need a lawyer to draft that one.
The alternative is that you can resign your POA and S can make an application for guardianship. That probably needs a lawyer anyway.
I am assuming your mom placed you as POA. she trusts you to make these decisions. Does she have a living trust? Who is going to question your decisions? She picked you when she was legally deemed healthy to do so. What an honor.. Hopefully you can still have adult discussions with your siblings regarding Mom's care, and come up with a solution together that everyone agrees. These life hanging decisions are never easy, but necessary. Do not get in the GUILT TRAIN.
No, you can't transfer a PoA. You must resign and she reassigns another person. Being the lone PoA among siblings is not a democracy - others may think it should be but at the end of the day you have the final say. You are not obligated to share any information with them. It's as if you are your Mom: would she be sharing all her information with her children and wanting all of them to "have a vote".
If you don't want to be the PoA then resign. If your Mom no longer has the capacity to assign a new one (and fyi this is a very low bar that the attorney assesses at the appointment) then your siblings will need to pursue guardianship, which is expensive and a more permanent legal responsibility (sometimes including financial).
Talk to the elder law attorney about the expected role of a PoA. You can certainly ask for input from your siblings but remind them that you're the only one who will be able to legally communicate with her doctors, financial institutions, etc. Make sure you submit the documents at those places so that your siblings can't do an end-run around your decisions. Step up or step away. Anything less will confuse everyone involved.
You as POA have the control. You make the decisions concerning Mom. You handle the finances and they are not privy to what they are. Hopefully besides financial you have Medical. Make sure her doctor, the bank and when she goes to the hospital, her POA is on file showing that you represent Mom and only you are given permission to talk to these people.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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If that can’t happen, you might make an arrangement with your sister that she can act and you will indemnify her regarding anything that goes wrong. You really need a lawyer to draft that one.
The alternative is that you can resign your POA and S can make an application for guardianship. That probably needs a lawyer anyway.
Hopefully you can still have adult discussions with your siblings regarding Mom's care, and come up with a solution together that everyone agrees.
These life hanging decisions are never easy, but necessary.
Do not get in the GUILT TRAIN.
If you don't want to be the PoA then resign. If your Mom no longer has the capacity to assign a new one (and fyi this is a very low bar that the attorney assesses at the appointment) then your siblings will need to pursue guardianship, which is expensive and a more permanent legal responsibility (sometimes including financial).
Talk to the elder law attorney about the expected role of a PoA. You can certainly ask for input from your siblings but remind them that you're the only one who will be able to legally communicate with her doctors, financial institutions, etc. Make sure you submit the documents at those places so that your siblings can't do an end-run around your decisions. Step up or step away. Anything less will confuse everyone involved.