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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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My son receives Medicaid and SNAP, but he has no income. I have tried to apply for SSI for him a couple of times, but because he refuses to leave the house, he was denied both times. I am now on a fixed income, so I can barely support myself.
PeggySue2020, to get disability, he has to have some medical evidence that he is disabled. Since he won't leave the house to be examined (or for any reason), the government will not award him disability because they don't have his health info!
Your son cannot qualify for social security disability without having enough work credits. There is a formula for determining work credits used by social security for this. If he has no work history, he will never receive disability, only SSI, supplemental security income, less than $1000/mo. I have an adult son with a brain injury. There has never been any program where I’m paid to help him. Fortunately, my son works as a cook in a restaurant. It’s a repetitious job and he excels in it. I’d advise your first step is getting your son to consent to going to get an updated medical and psychological evaluation. Make any help from you contingent on him doing this. For my son, we’ve done neuropsych testing. It has given us much valuable information on knowing truth on what he can and cannot handle. Knowledge is always power. I’d also hope you go back to work, you need to guard your own future, and have yourself cared for, as no one else will do this for you. I wish you well, this is a hard road.
Dear Linda, you have had a lot of problems, and you really don’t need to take on any more.
Reconsider caring for your 86 year old mother. She can receive care at the expense of the state. If you are not coping too well, the chances are that they will do it as well or better than you can.
You have been caring for your son at home for 13 years, since he was 16. If that was when he left school, there should have been some help available to get him into employment. You say that he has ‘anxiety, depression, mobility problems, and sleep disorder’, which may not qualify him for any type of pension or benefit. Perhaps that’s why he won’t leave the house to be assessed. Reconsider ‘caring’ for him.
You are very angry about your past employment, which is yet another problem.
See if you can get some counseling about how to go forward with your own life. When and if you sort out your own problems, you will be in a better position to help the rest of your family - if you want to.
You probably won't. First, he is only 29. You don't say what is wrong with him. If he has not seen doctors for his problem then you have no paper trail. He is being turned down for SSI because he is not showing he has a disability. Thats the only way he can get it at age 29.
And you can collect SS disability without having work earnings. Many challenged children get it based on parents earnings when they turn 18. My disabled nephew, from birth, got it in his early 20s. He had not worked 10 yrs.
You cannot care for Mom find her a place. Your memory problems maybe caused by stress and caring for Mom will just add to that stress.
Your son needscto take advantage of what is out there. Whatvis he going to do if something happens to you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I think the question should be how to get your son to live a productive life, and create less burden for you?
Reconsider caring for your 86 year old mother. She can receive care at the expense of the state. If you are not coping too well, the chances are that they will do it as well or better than you can.
You have been caring for your son at home for 13 years, since he was 16. If that was when he left school, there should have been some help available to get him into employment. You say that he has ‘anxiety, depression, mobility problems, and sleep disorder’, which may not qualify him for any type of pension or benefit. Perhaps that’s why he won’t leave the house to be assessed. Reconsider ‘caring’ for him.
You are very angry about your past employment, which is yet another problem.
See if you can get some counseling about how to go forward with your own life. When and if you sort out your own problems, you will be in a better position to help the rest of your family - if you want to.
And you can collect SS disability without having work earnings. Many challenged children get it based on parents earnings when they turn 18. My disabled nephew, from birth, got it in his early 20s. He had not worked 10 yrs.
You cannot care for Mom find her a place. Your memory problems maybe caused by stress and caring for Mom will just add to that stress.
Your son needscto take advantage of what is out there. Whatvis he going to do if something happens to you.