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I'm sorry for the loss of your loved one. I think the "first" of anything without them is beyond difficult. I'm struggling a bit with this myself. I suggest doing something you enjoy, whatever it is would be a good place to start. It can be small like staying in and renting movies all day with a big bowl of popcorn or volunteering or travelling to a city you like or have always wanted to visit. Above all, be kind to yourself and don't put too many expectations on what the day "should" involve. Just let things be and enjoy where you are and don't let the expectations of others drive your choice. Bless you.
I’m so sorry for you. I know it’s got to be hard. How about going to listen to a couple of local Christmas concerts by yourself or with another single friend when you can. Drive around & enjoy the lights. Go to dinner with a friend. I’m in a similar situation - my husband is in the latest stages of Alzheimer’s & I don’t feel right celebrating without him. It feels like he’s gone. On Christmas I plan to visit my husband for awhile & then come home & watch a movie or something. I hope after my husband is no longer here I’ll be able to feel like going out & joining in a little more but I know it will take time to be happy again. I miss him terribly after being married for 40 years.
I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 2 days before Thanksgiving last year. She also had dementia, so I guess I really had lost her years before. Everyone encouraged me to not have my family over for the Holidays, and I should have listened. I wasn’t much fun to be around, and didn’t even decorate the house.
I would have to say, don’t pretend everything is ok when it’s not. Don’t engage in parties or celebrations if you don’t want to. Take time for yourself and for quiet reflections. Holidays are stressful for everyone.
Work on new traditions, just don't try and recreate the holiday plan that used to include your loved one. If as a mother you always hosted christmas dinner this year have one of the kids do it. No one will expect you to be jolly so you can go to another room and sit quietly if the mood becomes too sad. If the Christmas gift giving is too stressful this year, just don't do it switch to gift cards or money or something like a gift basket if that is affordable. Lots of things will not be the same and holidays are very painful the first year till you can get beyond that. Just do what feels right for you even if it means staying in bed and crying all day. Someone i know who is alone goes to a movie on Christmas afternoon. It's probably too soon to volunteer the first year, that can come later. Blessings.
Thank you all for your responses. With dementia they are gone in many ways for along time before they ever pass from us. I remember once when my mother was no longer vocal and I was driving her to my house for the holidays before she moved in with me, we were listening to Christmas music on the car radio and she shockingly started to sing along to Jingle Bells! What a gift that was, one I will always treasure. As hard as this ravaging disease is, wondering how you and your loved one will ever get through it, through to the end without a good outcome, one has to cherish those moments and times with the person who once was as the alternative without them is even sadder. God Bless you all and thank God there is this forum and people who care. Try and have a good holiday in anyway you celebrate.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would have to say, don’t pretend everything is ok when it’s not. Don’t engage in parties or celebrations if you don’t want to. Take time for yourself and for quiet reflections. Holidays are stressful for everyone.