Mom fixates on missing jewelry that no one can find. We think it was stolen during a nursing home stay (she insisted on having it). She knows its gone but insists I need to find a way to get it. She can't accept the fact that its not where she last remembers it being (which was about 5-6 years ago now).
I can't make this missing jewelry materialize. I've done everything I can to look for it. I've check pockets, suitcases, the entire storage unit, etc. I've even gone to pawn shops at random just on the chance I see something I recognize.
None of that matters though to her! She's with it enough that idk if I can get away with fibbing that I'll go look for it. Idk what to do. This is stressing me out.
the topic again . They want you to look for things - maybe buy her something pretty off Etsy for Christmas. I got him a watch last year and he lost that and I had to buy another watch - it never ends .
Would it be possible for her to afford a new piece of jewellery? Not diamonds or anything fancy (to be stolen again 😩) or anything like what she had. Maybe nice costume beads or a fun bracelet. Something she would enjoy putting on these days.
One day I happened to glance down at a large basket of silk flowers that I had brought home when clearing out my parents' house, and something sparkled back at me. It was the ring I thought was gone from years ago. Still a mystery how it got there, and thank goodness I didn't donate that basket of flowers as I had with other silk arrangements Mom had.
Thus, the missing jewelry could still be in the house.
My MIL routinely took off her rings when she did dishes. She left them in a dish on the kitchen counter. She was robbed by her cleaning lady's son. Even KNOWING that and him confessing to it, she still believes that my baby (at the time, who was only 18 months old) had taken them and tucked them in her diaper. This was 39 years ago, you'd think we could put it to bed!
But she still brings it up, on occasion. Of COURSE my 18 mo didn't push a chair to the sink to steal gma's rings. But you can't talk sense into people who need to believe what they need to believe.
Seriously--the actual THIEF copped to that robbery and several others. He took a lot of jars of change that FIL saved, a coin collection and some tchotchkes, but my baby was the focus of MIL's anger.
Funny--I had not thought of that for years.
MIL and FIL divorced over 30 years ago. The rings were very cheap and she often commented on how cheap FIL was. (He wasn't. BTW.) If she brings it up, DH just shuts her down about it.