Aunt lives alone and won’t let help in house, she refuses to leave house for assisted living refuses ambulance after 911 called - she’s fallen several times. 911 can’t take her if she refuses, has food in the house. She has prior TBI, rapidly declining, won’t believe diagnosis or pursue help. No POA, HCP, Living Will. I am not able to move in. Has anyone experienced this and what did u do, or recommend?
I agree with Geaton. Just going to have to wait for something serious to happen. I would call APS and say she is a vulnerable adult. She needs the State to take over her care.
She kept falling, refused help, even a caregiver. She had me as POA, but it was to be only activated when she was incapacitated.
I tried everything to get her help. I even called EMT after she had fallen. I am out of state. Aunt's neighbor was with her and I could hear aunt screaming and cursing that she wasn't going anywhere. Leave her alone. EMT came to the phone and told me this isn't jail. They cannot force her to go if she refuses. I was livid.
I would come and visit and help her, and all was right with the world so long as I was doing what aunt wanted. Meanwhile, I was burning myself out and burning through my finances as well with the visits and her care.
I had to stop. I gave up my POA because I wasn't going to court to challenge it to get aunt in care because it wasn't activated and I told aunt I would not be coming to help as often as I was anymore.
Aunt is livid with me, but did wind up getting a caregiver.
Unfortunately, I agree with JoAnn in that you might just have to let something Unfortunate to happen.