I can no longer handle the stress of dealing with my 86 year old demented father. He was put in a nursing home today, but I know w/in 21 days he will be released and will return to his own home where he will continue to be a danger to himself. I don't care that he is a danger to himself; I honestly to don't care about anything that happens to am any more. I have given up nearly 2 yers of my life dealing with his issues and I have had it. My brother is also unable/unwilling to be his POA. How do I remove myself from this legally?
How do I get out of it
Think about whether you have any records of financial or legal management of the grantor's affairs, and if you need to provide documentation on your actions thus far (assuming that you have in fact been undertaking some financial or legal actions).
However, before you go, If he's not so demented that he doesn't know you and can't read anything I'd sit and spill out all that he has done in life that lead you to this sad but inevitable decision. You don't want him to fret thinking something has happened to him. Leave it with the official signed form giving up POA.
Let him know he is on his own, that you are now out of the picture and are not coming back that it's time for you to leave him and his negativity and past bad behaviors behind before you get totally tangled up in those heavy chains with him.