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My father had a cerebral haemorrhagic stroke and the burhole clit evacuasurgery cost around 10 000£ equivalent in my country's currency, and sister who recea handsome dowry of money and property refused to pay for his surgery- she was the apple of his eye, and even refused to visit him when he was terminal thinking that she would have to personally attend to his personal care, and in the end requested money from his last will to cover for the expenses of the hospital room bills, without any additional treatment. Without the surgery he died within a month. Am I the only one who sees her as narcissistic b***h? What kind of petty revenge is perfect in this situation?

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The perfect revenge, is for you to let go of this be happy, and probably keep your sister out of your life

Nothing good comes from revenge, nothing but more hurt , more pain for you

You can't change your sister, so let it all go. You can't force someone to care , you can't force someone to help you.

You only hurt YOU. So stop hurting yourself and move on from this, anger resentments, are ugly, boil away eat away at your mental and physical health
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Revenge on your sister won’t bring your father back , or make your grief any better .
Condolences on your loss . Perhaps speak with a therapist , and/or grief counselor to help you.
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It is not the responsibility of a child to pay a parent’s medical bills.
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None. I agree with others to not have a relationship with her since we can choose our friends but we don't get to choose our family members. We do get to choose how much or how little we interact with them.

Holding a grudge is like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don't do it.

May you receive peace in your heart as you grieve your losses.
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Revenge will not bring your father back and shouldn’t make you feel any better. What will bring you healing is to forgive, heal and move forward. I’m sorry for the loss of your father. He was terminal, would have died one day as we all will, expecting it to be different is unrealistic. I wish you peace and acceptance
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Rather than focus on revenge, you need to focus on your wellbeing. I am sorry for your loss. However, your need for revenge is too overwhelming for your mental health. I think your are displacing your grief and turning it into the need for revenge and this will only hurt you and those that you do love.

I suggest therapy to work through the grief and focus on your happiness for your present and future. Wishing you the best during this difficult time.
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Your message to us is written with some confused vertiage and that makes me think there is some confusion in your thinking. This would be normal in a situation in which you are suffering extreme grief. Your father, it sounds, had a hemorrhagic stroke. Sadly, even with a burr hole to release blood and pressure upon the brain, by the time this is done, the damage to the brain is also done. And it sounds your father did pass. I am so very sorry for this loss. It is devastaging.

Grief counselors tell us that people who cannot face grief will often instead "choose " to become angry. Most often they are angry at hospitals, doctors, nurses, rehabs, ECFs, and etc. Sometimes however they become angry at family. Or even at themselves. I fear this may be the case for you.

When a person is in hospital their bills accumulate.
It they do not survive, then their bills are paid by their "executor" or the "administrator" (if there's no will) of their estate. Before distribution of the estate all bills are paid. This includes medical bills.
So, your sister is doing exactly the right thing.

You're expressing a wish to "get revenge"; this concerns me as to your mental wellness. You are thinking of criminal and immoral activity. I encourage you to seek immediately for yourself. I am very worried for you and believe you need mental health care. Avail yourself of an emergency room if needed, but seek help.
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What is the saying? The best revenge is a life well lived.
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Grief can come out in many ways. In this case, you are directing your anger towards your sister. Whose to say that the surgery would have saved him? What type of quality of life would he have had. Grief can cloud your mind with a bunch of what ifs. The bottom line is that it was his time.

Grief counseling can help you sort through the anger and negative thinking. You will lay this to rest in due time.

I wish you Peace in the coming days.
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I suppose your sister owes you another debt...
You are letting her live rent free in you brain and your heart.
Let it go.
You should not be responsible for your fathers debt. His estate will be.

Honor your fathers life by being the best that you can be.
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