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You don't share who you're caring for other than it's a "family member" but if their care is just too much for you, call Adult Protective Services first thing Monday morning and let them know that there is no one caring for this person and that they can't live alone any longer.
They will come out and do an assessment and if need be take over this persons care, and even get them placed if necessary.
Then you can move on with your life without being bogged down with this persons care.
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Do you live with this person? If so, you first need to get a new residence.

If they live with you, you contact social services about getting them a court assigned legal guardian and then they will rehome them into a facility. Tell them it's urgent to get them out because it's impacting your mental health.

If you are this person's PoA, resign and call social services to get them a guardian. I'm so sorry you are in burnout. Do whatever it takes to take care of yourself as a priority. You can walk out and report them to APS.
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Follow funkygrandma's advice.
You do not need to do this any longer. You cannot be expected to provide more than you are physically and mentally able to do. Your feelings are valid.

You don't provide much detail, so I don't know what kind of situation you are in.
Are there other family members who are expecting you to do this? Do you have POA of the individual you are taking care of? I hope you are not living in their house, with nowhere else to go. That leaves you kind of stuck in this predicament. If the elder family member qualifies for Medicaid assistance, then they can be placed in a skilled nursing facility. If they own any property, that will need to be sold and the money used to pay for their care.
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I’m sorry things have reached this point. It’s not good for your family or for you any longer. If there is no other family wanting to take over and you cannot move the person to a memory care place, please call Adult Protective Services in your county and report the situation. Let them know the person has no one to provide the care required. I wish you well in finding the best new plan for you both
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It would help if we knew more about your circumstances. Does this person live with you or you with them. Are they a parent or sibling and how old are they. Do you have POA for this person or does someone else hold it? There are options but someone has to be able to get to their finances.

My Moms neighbor had live-in paid care. When the aide had not been paid for 2 weeks she called Adult Protection services and told them she was leaving. They were there that day and took over neighbors care.
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Nursing homes exist for just this reason.
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This is all good advice you've been given here. I'm just chiming in to validate your feelings. You're NOT obligated to continue doing this. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you. Just follow whatever advice given below is relevant to your situation. Let us know more details or how it goes, if you'd like.
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I'm so sorry you're carrying so much right now. Caregiver burnout is real, and reaching the point where you feel like you can't do it anymore doesn't mean you've failed—it means you've been carrying too much for too long. If there's a trusted family member, friend, or another person who can step in, even for a short time, please reach out. You deserve support too. And if you're feeling like you might act on these feelings or you're worried about your own safety or someone else's, please contact someone you trust or your local emergency or crisis services right away. You don't have to face this alone.
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I 100% understand how you feel. And don’t feel bad for expressing it later! You need respite care. Do you have any family member, or the resources to hire someone for a day or two while you get away? It is no joke that constantly caring for someone - who was likely not very kind to you and Ken be down right nasty - is exhausting, draining, and can leave you feeling completely depleted and hopeless if you don’t get some time away. And I don’t mean at work. It will wear you out in a a flash, before you even know what’s happening. Don’t ask -tell someone you know that they’re taking over for 24 to 48 hours and to not contact you unless it’s a dire emergency. Not kidding.
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