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My mother lives in S. FL. I came down after leaving NYC, but wasn't planning on staying. Due to a number of falls over the last 8 years I was advised by the social worker at the last rehab two years ago to put her on hospice in our home to keep her safe. She is 97 and has really declined. Seems like the end is near. On top of the dementia, constant shaking (can no longer use walker) and sleeping most of the time. I am exhausted mentally and physically from caregiving, doing this on my own with no family or support. I've asked hospice for advice, researched ALFs, hired an aid who was disrespectful (currently terminated). Don't know what to do anymore. Thanks for reading.

(((hugs)))

I am no expert at ALL

imho call an ambulance and take it from there
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I've been thinking about everything. It's hard to do this alone.
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Do you have a hospice home you could check out? There are also other types of facilities that will work with hospice.
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ExhaustedInFL27 7 hours ago
I know they have facilities for respite care that work with hospice. There was only one place that had an empty bed, and the reviews cited roaches and negligence. I'll speak to the nurse again tomorrow.
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Facility care. Sometimes elders get beyond what can be handled by loving hands at home. This is way beyond your pay grade! Let professionals take over, and you rest. You can visit anytime you want. Think about it - why is she more important than you are?
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ExhaustedInFL27 7 hours ago
I've been thinking about everything. It's been difficult to do this alone.
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