My mom is 62 years old and she has had 3 strokes. Her last stroke was in 2017 about 7 years ago. She is unable to move her left arm and has very little strength in her left leg. I am 29 years old and recently had a child 8 months ago. She had a fall and can no longer stand. We can not afford to place her in a home. She does receive check monthly but I don’t know what to do.. I’m tired of seeing her live this way. It is becoming too much for me as I’m trying to begin my own life too. I miss being just a daughter. I have been her caregiver now for 7 years and she doesn’t do the exercises to stay strong. I know that she is depressed and I understand why but I am just so lost on what to do for her now.
You need to talk to your local Area Agency on Aging or Medicaid office about getting mom on Medicaid. If she needs a Nursing Home, Medicaid will pay for it
It's not up to YOU to afford a placement for her.
You have your own child to worry about! Hopefully the Father is contributing financially. If not, take him to court! You have spent 7 years caregiving your Mom and that is enough!
Mom needs to be placed in the hands of medical professionals, who will keep her safe, clean and fed. They will deal with her depression and physical therapy.
Most important, you have a new baby to take care of. Unless you are a licensed nurse, caregiving a stroke patient is not easy at all. Especially now that she cannot stand. Mom is not your financial responsibility, either.
Do what Mom needs, not what she wants. Good luck!