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Husband had stroke is paralyzed on left side fell and fractured his left arm and left femur/hip ~ has been in rehab for hip surgery 3 weeks being released Wednesday and is a double assist for 5 more weeks ~ I have no help ~ all they tell me is I have to get him somehow ~ I now have covid and am very sick and I'm still told that's my problem they will drop him at home ~ if I'm in hospital with covid what are my options

You need to tell him you are ill and cannot care for him and dropping him home is an UNSAFE DISCHARGE and that he will be sent at once to ER per ambulance if they do this.

NOW, the problem here is something other. Covid will pass. But the problem remains. If you aren't able to care for him he needs placement. And it is far into the game to come to this conclusion because discharge planning starts on day one of rehab. So you need to be honest if he isn't able to return home, whether permanently or temporarily.

Do know that Medicare will stop paying the rehab. If he does remain there the bills will you YOURS and they will be HUGE. So you have a serious problem late in the game and need to speak to social workers there on Monday morning.

Hope you get well and are taking the Pax.
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Lmicjac Dec 8, 2024
since day 1 I've asked for help to place him I was told let's see how rehab goes Ive cared for him for 3 years 1 heartattack 2 strokes he is paralyzed on left side from stroke this past Feb. He fell 3 weeks ago being impulsive when I left him to go to bathroom he attempted to get up and fell. I'm exhausted i suffer from manic depression we have no family no resources except disability/Medicare now I'm sick being admitted to hospital for covid and my depression has put me in a bad state of mind where im tired of this world. I was just told it's my problem to take care of him come Wednesday ~ I am not smart enough to know what to do or how to get help ~ and no one cares only he used up his 21 days in rehab he is my problem now ~ I need to know how to make sure he is taken care of if you have any suggestions
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If you were not ill can you SAFELY care for him?
Are you planning on hiring a caregiver to help for the next month and a half?
At this point you tell the facility that you can not care for him that you are ill.
If they were to "drop him at home" you can call 911 and ask for him to be transported to the hospital.

It is time that you are honest with yourself...will you be able to care for him yourself. Not just for the next 6 weeks but for the next X number of years?
If you intend on caring for him at home ask the doctor to write orders for equipment that will enable you to care for him safely at home.
A Hoyer Lift is a safe piece of equipment to use, typically it should be used with 2 people but can be operated by 1 in a home setting. Trust me it is a game changer when caring for some one that has limited strength, mobility and may be bedbound.
If this is not something that you can manage yourself a caregiver will be a blessing not just with the extra help but by allowing you to get out a bit knowing he is safe with someone else at home. Alternative is looking for a facility that can care for him. Probably Skilled Nursing since he would be a 2 person transfer and SNF have the ability to use equipment that other facilities can not use.
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No! Do not take him home! Do not pick him up. If they drop him off at home, call 911 immediately and have him transported to the hospital. In the meantime, call APS and tell them you are sick and in no way capable of handling the caregiving requirements. You are going to have to be firm and strong, but don’t give in!
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Lm,
How are you feeling?
Hoping you will update us on all of this.
Thinking of you.
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A 2 person lift spells SNF care. You need to claim unsafe discharge. The social worker will help with Medicaid application.
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