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If you decide to do this , make it clear , that at any time if you feel this is not working for you anymore that there needs to be an alternative plan for your friend’s care .
You need an off ramp , for if / when this gets too difficult .
I think this is poor decision making on your part, and there's a good change it will not only end in disaster but will lose you a friend you should be supporting by REMAINING a friend. A caregiver is something entirely other.
It would take a long book to tell you what you need to be a caregiver. If you do not know what you would need to be a caregiver then it is something you should not endeavor to do when it cannot be paid for adequately and is something that should be done NOT by one person, but by a team of caregivers working over several shifts.
How old are you and friend? What type of care does she need? Are you going to get paid? Caregiving is hard and you need stamina to do it. You need a support system. Its not a job u do 24/7. You need timevto yourself.
Kind of like jumping out of a airplane, then wondering if you remembered to put on a parachute. Your friend should feel lucky. If they qualify for Medicaid there is program that allows paid caregivers, friends or family members. Medicaid is run through each State so a quality elder care attorney should be used for requirements. Like others had said, put together a documented off ramp as most people don't understand what it takes to be a caregiver in certain situations that are normally fluid. If you are unaware how to get started, getting out will far more difficult. Thank you for caring for your friend.
Does the friend want you to be her caregiver? It should be initiated by her. Ask what things she needs help with and do those. That is caregiving. If she needs help with things you don't know how to do, such as personal cares, then you should seek training to become competent.
Most states have some form of a Home and Community Based Services program, HCBS, which, if your friend qualifies for a home caregiver, she should have a case manager she can talk to about having you as her caregiver. That case manager will let her know what the steps are for that to happen.
If she doesn't qualify for HCBS, then as ZippyZee says, just start providing care. With your friends permission, of course.
Although your intentions are very sweet, you must ask yourself if you're qualified to do this. Can you provide a safe environment, free from falls, from leaving appliances on and wandering? Can you take your friend to all medical appointments and have yourself declared as the health care advisor ? Is there family that has been appointed to be POA? Is your friend coherent at this time to fill out the needed information/ papers to give you permission? The legalities are enough to deal with, along with having to deal with your own business. Are you going to do the friends financial accounts? Without knowing your friends condition it's hard to find the right information for you. The top of the list is always safety. Please keep researching this, it's been said that many caregivers die before the loved ones. I think many here are not happy with the position that they took on. We felt obligated or appointed to something we weren't able to process at the time. We learned with time and this forum. This is a huge change to your lifestyle!
You can take care of anyone you want to, but maybe you are asking how you can become a paid caregiver. If your friend is on Medicaid you might be able to be paid to whatever degree Medicaid pays caregivers. There must be some kind of official application and requirements of care you may need to meet, I have never investigated the Medicaid Caregiving benefits, but maybe others on this forum have.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You need an off ramp , for if / when this gets too difficult .
It would take a long book to tell you what you need to be a caregiver.
If you do not know what you would need to be a caregiver then it is something you should not endeavor to do when it cannot be paid for adequately and is something that should be done NOT by one person, but by a team of caregivers working over several shifts.
In the meantime, here are some really good articles regarding becoming a caregiver: www.agingcare.com/topics/29/caregiving
Your friend should feel lucky. If they qualify for Medicaid there is program that allows paid caregivers, friends or family members. Medicaid is run through each State so a quality elder care attorney should be used for requirements.
Like others had said, put together a documented off ramp as most people don't understand what it takes to be a caregiver in certain situations that are normally fluid.
If you are unaware how to get started, getting out will far more difficult.
Thank you for caring for your friend.
It should be initiated by her.
Ask what things she needs help with and do those. That is caregiving.
If she needs help with things you don't know how to do, such as personal cares, then you should seek training to become competent.
Most states have some form of a Home and Community Based Services program, HCBS, which, if your friend qualifies for a home caregiver, she should have a case manager she can talk to about having you as her caregiver.
That case manager will let her know what the steps are for that to happen.
If she doesn't qualify for HCBS, then as ZippyZee says, just start providing care.
With your friends permission, of course.
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