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Hi, Jim. It’s good to plan now for what you’ll do when your mother passes.
Do you work and/ or have money coming in? Will you be the sole heir to the house and is there still a mortgage on it? How much does it cost to maintain the house in terms of the electrical and gas bill, garbage bill, water bill, and homeowner’s insurance? Property tax is another consideration. And of course, eventually there will be things that need to be repaired or replaced, some of which can be very expensive like a roof.
You might consider planning to have a housemate to make it more affordable for you to stay there.
Are you listed in your mothers will to inherit her home when she passes? If not that may be an issue with you remaining in the home. And if you don't even have money to make sure your mother can have a proper burial or cremation, how do you think you'll be able to pay the upkeep and monthly bills of living in her house? Those are things you must consider. Cremation is much less expensive than a burial, but you're still going to need around $2000, perhaps more depending where you live for a cremation. I wish you well in getting this figured out for your mother, as she deserves a decent exit from this world when the time comes.
Good information from SnoopyLove and funkygrandma59. By "fees," do you mean paying for final arrangements? Even basic plans (cremation, no funeral) can be costly. If you're interested, I can post how much we paid last week for my mom's basic plan. If there will be very little or no money when your mother dies, you could ask family members (if any) or folks in your community to help pay. Not everyone is comfortable with this, but people do it nonetheless.
Not "if" but "when" she passes. At 94 it may not be long, but more details about her condition would be helpful.
The first question is: Does your mother have a will, trust, or transfer-on-death deed for the house? That determines a lot.
If the house is only in her name and there isn't another estate-planning tool in place, the home will generally become part of her estate and may need to go through probate. Funeral expenses, final bills, and estate administration costs are typically paid from estate assets before heirs inherit anything.
If there truly isn't much cash available, many families use estate funds, sell other assets if there are any, or in some cases borrow against the estate until the home can be transferred or sold. Some funeral homes also offer payment plans.
Since you live in the home and hope to keep it, now is the time to sit down with an elder law or probate attorney in your mother's state. A short consultation can help you understand your options before a crisis occurs. There may be ways to simplify the transfer or reduce costs, but those depend on your state's laws and how the home is titled.
Can you tell us what state you live in, whether she has a will or trust, and whether the house is paid off or has a mortgage? Those details will make a big difference in the answers you'll receive.
I am in Connecticut. My mother has a will leaving the house to me. I am talking about lawyer probate fees and funeral costs. She does have a cemetery plot and headstone from when my father passed 3 years ago. I am checking and thinking she does have life insurance policy. I am worried about lawyer fees for Probate. Thanks
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Do you work and/ or have money coming in? Will you be the sole heir to the house and is there still a mortgage on it? How much does it cost to maintain the house in terms of the electrical and gas bill, garbage bill, water bill, and homeowner’s insurance? Property tax is another consideration. And of course, eventually there will be things that need to be repaired or replaced, some of which can be very expensive like a roof.
You might consider planning to have a housemate to make it more affordable for you to stay there.
And if you don't even have money to make sure your mother can have a proper burial or cremation, how do you think you'll be able to pay the upkeep and monthly bills of living in her house? Those are things you must consider.
Cremation is much less expensive than a burial, but you're still going to need around $2000, perhaps more depending where you live for a cremation.
I wish you well in getting this figured out for your mother, as she deserves a decent exit from this world when the time comes.
By "fees," do you mean paying for final arrangements? Even basic plans (cremation, no funeral) can be costly. If you're interested, I can post how much we paid last week for my mom's basic plan. If there will be very little or no money when your mother dies, you could ask family members (if any) or folks in your community to help pay. Not everyone is comfortable with this, but people do it nonetheless.
The first question is: Does your mother have a will, trust, or transfer-on-death deed for the house? That determines a lot.
If the house is only in her name and there isn't another estate-planning tool in place, the home will generally become part of her estate and may need to go through probate. Funeral expenses, final bills, and estate administration costs are typically paid from estate assets before heirs inherit anything.
If there truly isn't much cash available, many families use estate funds, sell other assets if there are any, or in some cases borrow against the estate until the home can be transferred or sold. Some funeral homes also offer payment plans.
Since you live in the home and hope to keep it, now is the time to sit down with an elder law or probate attorney in your mother's state. A short consultation can help you understand your options before a crisis occurs. There may be ways to simplify the transfer or reduce costs, but those depend on your state's laws and how the home is titled.
Can you tell us what state you live in, whether she has a will or trust, and whether the house is paid off or has a mortgage? Those details will make a big difference in the answers you'll receive.