He has been attending a day facility 3 days per week for 5 hours. He does very well while there. I on the other hand have to deal with taking him. He objects strongly and today he slammed me with a very hurtful comment. This kills my heart and I am overwhelmed with hurt. I know it's the disease but it sure does hurt me so much and I've spent my time today in a very sad state.
You have every right to feel what you feel. Just don't dwell on it too much. Your LO is not himself anymore. The filter is going, or gone. Sadly, the verbal abuse is often the only thing they can do to vent their frustration. It DOES hurt.
Do you have someone you can talk to? A therapist may be very helpful in dealing with this. Sorting it all out and not letting it eat you up? My mother makes very hurtful comments, but she MEANS them, she's competent enough to know what to say to get at you. That's a lot worse. I can't even blame dementia.
I hope you get out in the sun today and talk to a god friend, or even have a good cry. Life is really hard, sometimes.
{{Hugs}} cause you need them today.
What helps a LOT with me and mom now is having other people do some of the tasks that put me in the firing line. So with me, mom gets most nasty when I "nag" her - to take her pills, to drink her Ensure, to go to bed or get up, etc. - and also anything involving poop and pee! Since mom was diagnosed "palliative," we've qualified for extra home support, too. So that makes a huge difference. Mom is much nicer to other people, plus they are trained to deal with it.
Maybe there is a volunteer driver program that could take over driving your loved one?
Then I remembered we need to love them to put up with it at all.
you love him enough to continue to care and want the best for him, try and concentrate on that and don't forget to do something good for yourself during the five hours he is gone.
Try a routine not that he will follow it but it will give you some structure.
"It's 830 time to get your coat on" Remove newspaper he is reading and hold out coat. reassure him paper will still be on the table when he gets home. Next day if he won't co-operate simply hide the paper. Concentrate on what has to be done, close your mind to the remarks. Turn on some happy music anything to distract. This is not a job for sissys.