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The list above is a great start but dont' forget to ask her what she wants. So often we can see what's best and we charge blindsided toward that without stopping to ask their opinion. I know because I'm guilty of the same thing with my mom.... it takes more time, more negotiation and more effort but it's worth it to know that she's on board and that you're considering her happiness too. It also helps them feel like they have some control, they are more likely to go along with something and ensures that they trust you.
To begin the conversation, you might tell her that her safety is your primary concern. She might feel that's odd but remind her of the potential for falls and such. You can begin by working to make her home safer. I'll toot my own horn here and suggest you browse my blog - the link is in my agingcare.com profile under website. ( I can't provide it here the moderator will delete it.) I've tried to provide helpful details as we went through the same thing with my mom and moved her to assisted living then a nursing home. Look for the ideas for homesafety first. Best of luck, your mom is lucky to have a couple of respectful kids to who care enough to have "the talk", many people just have relatives who want to suck their finances and neglect their elders.
Lynn offers such sound advise! There is a book I found helpful:
The Complete Eldercare Planner by Joy Loverde
I will add that I would break up the 'TALK' into several small sessions. If not your mother may be overwhelmed. If you are organized and know what you need to ask, you can gather the information "informally".
Of course if your mother wants to forge ahead, gather as much as she is willing to share. Just take it in phases.
Not sure who has it. Try AARP, ALZ assoc., Area Agency on aging.
Things I've had to find out just off the top:
Will? If not... Durable power of attorney Patient advocate Advance directives
Locate Documents....hopefully they have a filing system Deeds Auto Stock/bond Bank accounts Birth cert. Insurance...Medical & other
Decisions "In case of" housing..in home care..NH..Assisted living....(finances involved) investigate medicaid requirements (limited funds)
misc. household/daily maintenance grocery cleaning laundry Dr visits...(driver)
Some things will take you by surprise no matter how well prepared you are. You are on the right track trying to be prepared though. Hope you can keep all under control.
Thanks Lynn, I actually do live with my mom so I can see if anything is amiss. She was always a multi-tasker and very organized independent person and my brother and I are very cognizant of not wanted to push her or insult her. We want her to be as involved as possible so that she knows she has back up if the time comes that she needs assistance with handling finances and other important issues.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
To begin the conversation, you might tell her that her safety is your primary concern. She might feel that's odd but remind her of the potential for falls and such. You can begin by working to make her home safer. I'll toot my own horn here and suggest you browse my blog - the link is in my agingcare.com profile under website. ( I can't provide it here the moderator will delete it.) I've tried to provide helpful details as we went through the same thing with my mom and moved her to assisted living then a nursing home. Look for the ideas for homesafety first.
Best of luck, your mom is lucky to have a couple of respectful kids to who care enough to have "the talk", many people just have relatives who want to suck their finances and neglect their elders.
The Complete Eldercare Planner by Joy Loverde
I will add that I would break up the 'TALK' into several small sessions. If not your mother may be overwhelmed. If you are organized and know what you need to ask, you can gather the information "informally".
Of course if your mother wants to forge ahead, gather as much as she is willing to share. Just take it in phases.
It's great to see that you want to be prepared.
Things I've had to find out just off the top:
Will? If not...
Durable power of attorney
Patient advocate
Advance directives
Locate Documents....hopefully they have a filing system
Deeds
Auto
Stock/bond
Bank accounts
Birth cert.
Insurance...Medical & other
Decisions "In case of"
housing..in home care..NH..Assisted living....(finances involved)
investigate medicaid requirements (limited funds)
misc. household/daily maintenance
grocery
cleaning
laundry
Dr visits...(driver)
Some things will take you by surprise no matter how well prepared you are. You are on the right track trying to be prepared though. Hope you can keep all under control.