My adult children insist they are fully vaccinated but I know that they don’t know if all the people they associate with are vaccinated. My daughter is angry with me and very hurt. I am recovering from breast cancer surgery and I recently had a stroke. My husband takes very good care of me. I just want to be fully healed and my husband and I are fully vaccinated too. I’m truly afraid because I will be 81 soon and really am concerned about my health. We don’t allow anyone to come into the house.
There are scientific reasons why recovering cancer patients have their immunity compromised and should avoid contact with most people.
Have your doctor explain it to her.
You are not awful for not wanting visitors. You are being wise, and careful.
Please do not tell your daughter it is because you do not trust the people she
hangs out with. That would be TMI, and hurtful to her. (TMI = too much information).
Thus the reason people who are vaccinated are still so afraid of getting covid.
Makes you wonder what the hell the point of being vaccinated and boosted if you are still so afraid of this virus.
Obviously no one who is vaccinated believes they are actually proteced against the virus since they display such paranoia regarding the fear of getting covid.
Your chances of dying from cancer or another stroke are far greater than dying from covid. And dying from cancer or deteriorating from another stroke that that doesn't kill you but incapacitates you in worse ways than you probably can imagine is far worse than dying from covid or the flu.
Vaccinated people are supposed to be PROTECTED from disease! Yet here we are, insisting 'unvaccinated' folks are somehow HARMING those of us who have 'vaccinated' status. It makes NO SENSE at all, if you think about it instead of listening to the talking heads spouting hateful nonsense at you, trying to cause division between loved ones due to 'vaccination status'.
Everyone is vulnerable to this virus, vaccinated or non vaccinated. And, we've all been exposed to it by now, after over TWO YEARS TIME and the fact it's here to stay with us forever.
Everyone can catch this virus, vaccinated or non vaccinated.
My DH had a liver transplant in April and is immuno-SUPPRESSED. Not immuno compromised, but SUPPRESSED. Purposely has his immune system shut down so it's not working properly in order to prevent the new liver from rejecting. And he's not hiding out in fear of catching Covid, as agreed with by the Mayo Clinic. Furthermore, his daughter and granddaughter are not 'vaccinated' and we do not care b/c in reality, they do not pose a 'threat' to US in any way b/c we are 'vaccinated' (a fat lot of good it's done us, in truth). So they are coming here to our home (as we have been to theirs) for Christmas. We also go out all the time, to dinner, to estate sales where other people are, ALL THE TIME.
You should do whatever you feel is right. The point of my comment to you is to get you to THINK with your OWN brain and not use the group-think that the main stream media is demanding you use with regard to this 'vaccination' matter. B/c it makes NO SENSE.
Everyone is 'concerned about their health'. By the same token, to alienate our own family members due to their 'vaccination status' or worse yet, to the potential vaccination status of their FRIENDS, is quite ludicrous. It's okay to try to stay safe. It's another to be SO paranoid that we stop living entirely, b/c that's causing ourselves 'death' while we're still alive.
In the meantime, what about video calls with your children? I'm sure with your medical issues they would like to "lay eyes" on you, so to speak.
I can understand your fears, and I would never tell you that they are unjustified; nor will I try to downplay the seriousness of covid. But unless you are never leaving your house (since you say you don't allow anyone in) you have likely already been "exposed" to someone who has covid - in the store, in a house of worship, in your doctor's office, etc. If you're not comfortable, then that's that, but a chat with your doctor might help. And if your doctor agrees with you about not risking exposure, then you can let go of some of the guilt you're feeling, knowing you're following your doctor's advice.
Also, why do you think your children are lying to you about their vaccination status? Have they done so in the past? That might be the reason your daughter is angry and hurt; not the fact that you're afraid of exposure, but the inference (or perhaps outright saying) that she is lying to you about being fully vaccinated.
Even though you let no one into your house, you're still at risk. Does your husband go out? Does he do the grocery shopping, or go to the bank, or the pharmacy, or anywhere?
If he does then he's being exposed to people who may not be vaccinated which makes you exposed to them as well.
Your adult children can still visit you if they are vaccinated. Insist that everyone wear masks in your house and social distance.
When we leave the house, we always mask up when going into a store. We have noticed many non-seniors are without masks now a days, and I can understand their tiredness of wearing them. I know I am tired of my glasses fogging up.
Tomorrow hubby's grown son and son's wife will be visiting, and I also have concerns as I don't think they even had gotten their booster shots. They don't stay with us, we always book a room at a nearby Hampton Inn. Less work for us to get the house ready for guests. We like to do carry-out and eat at home, which they don't mind.
As for who your grown children hang out with, think of it this way.... wouldn't your grown children have already gotten covid over the past two years if that was the case?