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Or should I just try to get her doctor to know my suspicions before her next appointment. She's real mean. I'd like to avoid a fight (we already fight once per day over the most obvious safety issues).

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I'd email her doctor in advance about your concerns and ask him to do some cognitive testing. Tell him/her everything your mom is doing that gives you concerns, including how she acts, and add any other relevant information. Tell him she gets really angry with you, too.

I see no value in talking to her apout it at this point if all you two is get into fights. Having the doctor's opinion to back you up would be far more useful.
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Would you feel dishonest NOT telling Mom?

If so, what about pre-warning of a 'general checkup' appointment rather than mentioning the specific concern beforehand?

Or are you worried about her reaction in the Doctor's office?

I imagine Mom's reaction will be a combination of the Doctor's skill in asking in a non-threatening way + Mom's personality + Mom's mood on the day.

Any backlash from Mom later can get the truth:
"I had concerns so felt it was right to speak up, rather than ignore. Because I care".

Edit: Just saw your other post re Mom & caregiver burnout...

This could be an excellent way to intro..

Hello Doctor, I am concerned about Mom as she has a large burden caring for Dad. I was hoping she would be able to talk to you & find out how to improve the situation for both of them. Thank you.
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peanuttyxx, if your Mother is acting real mean it may not be dementia but an Urinary Tract Infection. Have your Mother's primary doctor run a test. An UTI in an older person can mimic dementia, and cause a lot of other issues, like fighting. At least you can rule it out if the test is negative.
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