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Who owns the house? If it's yours, then no, don't let him in. If your grandfather left the house to someone else but you've stayed there, then that person or group of people can decide who lives there, and you can move out if you object.
Even if you choose to stay in a house that belongs to someone else and they let your uncle move in, you don't have to take care of or do anything for him.
Do you have some kind of Caseworker to help you secure your rights? If your rights are being violated, and you are disabled and cannot rectify the situation yourself, then you could contact Disability Rights Advocates.
Where do you live (City?) (Do not give your address here). Do you want us to look that up for you?
Does this mean you were in jail: "i went to do time ". If so, you may have a parole officer who can get you some help living independently in your home.
Seems like, and I could be wrong, you are a vulnerable adult living independently, but may need some assistance to prevent "family" from taking over, or exploiting you, trying to gain possession of the home. If this is the reality (vulnerable adult), your family may be violating your rights in order to enhance themselves financially. It may be a crime against a disabled person.
See the person who arranged for your Uncle to move in, and hand them copies of ALL the bills to pay: All the utilities. They should reimburse you. Uncle should pay you rent for the limited time he has stayed there without an agreement. Do not allow them to change the utilities into anyone's name but yours, if you are the legal owner and reside there. It's complicated. You need a free attorney.
Is there a will?
You need to understand, that you are not to take your money and pay for the Uncle's portion of expenses. Bill him, in preparation for his upcoming eviction.
If you cannot have guns, be brave, call APS (Adult Protective Services) and have the guns removed.
It is stressful to have this person move in and bring guns. Stop sleeping outside, get a lock and secure a bedroom for yourself. Call APS by dialing 911 anytime, day or night. The guns are NOT yours, so get them removed, secretly by a friend if you must. Because you cannot be around guns. First step. Do not tell Uncle or family you are having this done.
We are going to need more information about you (and your wife) if we will be able to help you sort this out.
Do you live in a rental, house, apartment, condo, ranch, farm? Whose name is on the contract? (lease, mortgage, deed, rental agreement?)
Do not move yet, but keep yourself safe. Are you able to live alone? Does your doctor agree? Do you have enough of your own food?
Does your family (Grandpa's adult children) think they are somehow "helping you?"
By the way, one of the best ways to get rid of a grifter is to give them a bill in writing, expecting payment. Then, an overdue bill. Then, an eviction notice through your attorney.
If you give us your age, or approximate age, we can send you to the Senior Center for help in getting a free attorney.
The most important fact is whose name is on the deed to the house. You can get this information from your local government. In many cities or counties this is online. If it's not, you can call. Do that right away. That will tell you if you have the legal right to kick your uncle out.
Kegs, you said you "went to do time" and this is likely why you cannot be around guns, it's part of your parole/release. In this regard, you are definitely having your rights violated because you can wind up getting arrested again if you're caught with guns in your home. Can your wife get these guns out of the house for you? Can you get the uncle evicted? Does your family NOT understand the importance of all this?
You're obviously not a minor with a wife and an arrest record.
If you have funds, call a lawyer or Legal Aid for advice about all of this.
Wishing you good luck and Godspeed moving forward.
Cause my grandpa told me it was mine and my family lied to me that it was just until he found a place but ever since he moved in he has been scracthing all my furnite and has been making my bills go high so that way im not able to pay them and hes not giving me not one cent and my family is letting him do this what kind of family goes try and change the water bill in there name behind my back when i live here since 1991 and my grandpa put me as authuäorized user on light and water so i wont have problems changing to my name when he passed i dont want to expose my grandpas children but they didnt even want to help him when he got sick i had to suffer alöne supporting him with bathing meals dressing him and meds thank god my wife was there for us both when i couldnt anymore cause i went to do time .But for me to take care of my problems and that will make him happy and if i didnt want this house for me to donate it to church but that he wasnt gonna leave it to his kids cause they didnt even visit when he got sick and for me not to let my family take advatage me . But since im disabled they are running over me and not even caring about my well being when i text them about the pioblems they brought to my house .Im getting sick with the way they are treating me i had no problems before he was here and there even doing witch craft on me
Kegs, we appreciate your responses, but you’re leaving out the key fact. Do you own the house, or not? Did your grandfather leave a will that was probated after he died? If the house belongs to his children because he did not give it to you while he was alive or leave it to you in a will or trust, then you need to face the unfortunate fact that your uncle (and his guns, if he owns them legally), are entitled to be there, so you and your wife will need to move out. And change the bills so you are not paying them! It’s terrible if your grandfather didn’t leave you the house, but you can’t change that now.
But if you do own the house, get a locksmith over while your uncle is out. put his belongings out on the porch, and don’t let him back in. He can call one of these other family members to come get him.
Im sick and tiered of my family treating me like im not human i have had so much done to me this year im about to blow up and get in trouble please help my family thinks this is not a problem and it is
If you are in fact on probation or parole, you know what blowing up will get you, kegs. The fact is that your family may not care about you as they did when you were a child, but the fact that you were there so long and disabled should hopefully mean there are social workers tasked with sssisting you.
Kegs15, welcome to the forum. To help us understand better the situation, who's name is currently on the Deed to the house?
If it is your grandfather's name on the Deed (and not your name), did your grandfather have a Will where he stated that you will get the house once he died? If yes, then the Will needs to be Probated through the local Courts, and then your name can be placed on the Deed.
If your grandfather didn't have a Will, then it will be up to the Probate Court to figure out who now owns the house. Since you were your Grandfather's caregiver, that could help with the Judge saying the house now belongs to you. It depends on how the Probate laws are written in your State (if you live in the U.S.).
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Even if you choose to stay in a house that belongs to someone else and they let your uncle move in, you don't have to take care of or do anything for him.
yourself, then you could contact Disability Rights Advocates.
Where do you live (City?) (Do not give your address here). Do you want us to look that up for you?
Does this mean you were in jail: "i went to do time ". If so, you may have a parole officer who can get you some help living independently in your home.
Seems like, and I could be wrong, you are a vulnerable adult living independently,
but may need some assistance to prevent "family" from taking over, or exploiting you, trying to gain possession of the home. If this is the reality (vulnerable adult), your family may be violating your rights in order to enhance themselves financially.
It may be a crime against a disabled person.
See the person who arranged for your Uncle to move in, and hand them copies of ALL the bills to pay: All the utilities. They should reimburse you. Uncle should pay you rent for the limited time he has stayed there without an agreement.
Do not allow them to change the utilities into anyone's name but yours, if you are the legal owner and reside there. It's complicated. You need a free attorney.
Is there a will?
You need to understand, that you are not to take your money and pay for the Uncle's portion of expenses. Bill him, in preparation for his upcoming eviction.
If you cannot have guns, be brave, call APS (Adult Protective Services) and have the guns removed.
It is stressful to have this person move in and bring guns. Stop sleeping outside, get a lock and secure a bedroom for yourself. Call APS by dialing 911 anytime, day or night. The guns are NOT yours, so get them removed, secretly by a friend if you must. Because you cannot be around guns. First step. Do not tell Uncle or family you are having this done.
We are going to need more information about you (and your wife) if we will be able to help you sort this out.
Do you live in a rental, house, apartment, condo, ranch, farm? Whose name is on the contract? (lease, mortgage, deed, rental agreement?)
Do not move yet, but keep yourself safe. Are you able to live alone? Does your doctor agree? Do you have enough of your own food?
Does your family (Grandpa's adult children) think they are somehow "helping you?"
By the way, one of the best ways to get rid of a grifter is to give them a bill in writing, expecting payment. Then, an overdue bill. Then, an eviction notice through your attorney.
If you give us your age, or approximate age, we can send you to the Senior Center for help in getting a free attorney.
You're obviously not a minor with a wife and an arrest record.
If you have funds, call a lawyer or Legal Aid for advice about all of this.
Wishing you good luck and Godspeed moving forward.
But if you do own the house, get a locksmith over while your uncle is out. put his belongings out on the porch, and don’t let him back in. He can call one of these other family members to come get him.
If it is your grandfather's name on the Deed (and not your name), did your grandfather have a Will where he stated that you will get the house once he died? If yes, then the Will needs to be Probated through the local Courts, and then your name can be placed on the Deed.
If your grandfather didn't have a Will, then it will be up to the Probate Court to figure out who now owns the house. Since you were your Grandfather's caregiver, that could help with the Judge saying the house now belongs to you. It depends on how the Probate laws are written in your State (if you live in the U.S.).
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