One of many examples is that few days ago we took my mom to see a nutritionist because she lost a lot weight, she eats little and we wanted to make sure nothing was to worry. My mom as usual moody, crying in the dark and upset the next days..
Her reactions made our lives sad ,worried and mentally overwhelmed as her daughters. I personally started trying to figure out how to take her for other possible doctors appointments that might be necessary...
I have a difficult sister with a habit of getting very angry with other people (last time she hit me hard on the head). Then she says ‘I over-reacted’ as her idea of an apology. She seems to think it excuses anything. I think it’s a control mechanism. 'I can do what I like, people will just have to accept that I over-react sometimes'.
At 66, unless she has a mental illness, your mother should have more self-control, and should not be doing things to make you feel bad. What do you think she really wants – to move in with one of you?
Your father is 68 years old and lives with your other sister.
You live outside the USA.
Your mother has lost a great deal of weight and eats very little. She is tearful and emotional without any obvious cause.
And you took her to a nutritionist???
Does she have a primary care physician?
Is everyone living everyone else's lives all at once. Both parents living with adult children at such young ages too. Is there any time to live your own life?
I have to ask: can Mother not initiate taking herself to her Doctor to discuss her physical & mental health? If not, why not?
Sorry things are so difficult for you.
Find her a competent local geriatric specialist.