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Does it really matter if she knows who you are? My mom is in late stage ALZ and I'm not sure she knows who I am either. But I find that it really doesn't matter in our case. I just meet her where she is. She knows I'm someone who helps take care of her and spends time with her. In our situation - and all are different - it doesn't matter to her who I am. It may matter to me that she doesn't know her own daughter, but truly, that's the least of my worries. My focus is more on her being comfortable, content and well-cared for. If you can't sing to her all the time to be sure she knows who you are, maybe just relax into the situation and don't frustrate yourself. Just let her see that regardless of who you are, you love her and are someone who can help her. All the best to you.
Dad has only one name in his head . . . my brothers. It used to bother me when he calls me by brothers name. I have tried many times to get him to remember my name and getting quite frustrated, until I realized it just does not matter. He wont get better and I am punishing myself in trying to correct him. I care for him in my home and he knows he is getting all he needs and wants. He knows he is loved. A name is just a name, insignificant in the big picture. It gives me relief to let this go. He is unaware of any of this.
My cousin's wife (in the last stage of ALZ) could really only communicate through singing. It was the last time I saw her (a few years before she passed on)... but, this was actually a good memory for me, since she seemed happy at our family reunion... She was relatively young... Her husband was an angel for sticking it out with her... So, just enjoy her presence... At least it's on a happy note... Maybe you can even purchase an electric keyboard or some other simple instrument for her to 'play' with... Anything helps... It's ALZ... And, be kind to yourself... God Bless you both...
All answers above! Meet her where she is. Play music - it calms the soul and reaches places just words can't go (ask anyone whose participated in a drum circle!) and by all means....please sing to her. I am sure it makes her heart happy and proud to hear you. I come here to this site as one who recently lost my mother and I will tell you from this perspective - do everything you can to make her happy for as long as it is not hurting you it is worth it. If you don't you will regret that you didn't do those simple things for her. And, sing for yourself too. Always. :)
Keep on singing. It gives them more memories. My husband loves to sing and he remembers the words of old songs. It is the one great part of Alzheimers. They all love old music. Take advantage. If you are tired of singing, play music for her.....the kind she likes.
Music is good for the soul. I agree with everyone. I have Alz and I believe I am in the 3rd category. Thanks to whoever provided that nice link to find out where you are. I have read other articles, but this was the finest by far. I printed it out so I could read it in the future. Anyway to get back to the music. I play music all the time while siting at my computer. Sometimes the radio, and sometimes CD's. I am trying to find a CD player and radio combo for my bedroom. I have always loved music, especially spiritual music. It calms the soul. I have in my instructions that my family should be sure that I get to listen to music wherever I am.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
A name is just a name, insignificant in the big picture.
It gives me relief to let this go. He is unaware of any of this.
Play music in the house -- oldies....:)
I come here to this site as one who recently lost my mother and I will tell you from this perspective - do everything you can to make her happy for as long as it is not hurting you it is worth it. If you don't you will regret that you didn't do those simple things for her. And, sing for yourself too. Always. :)
Anyway to get back to the music. I play music all the time while siting at my computer. Sometimes the radio, and sometimes CD's. I am trying to find a CD player and radio combo for my bedroom. I have always loved music, especially spiritual music. It calms the soul. I have in my instructions that my family should be sure that I get to listen to music wherever I am.
Thanks to everyone.
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