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Oh my, sorry that you want me to make a choice mom, because you lose!
I hope that you stick to your guns and don't let her manipulate you into leaving your husband. She has some serious issues to even consider making you choose.
"I don't like "Mom should have planned for old age" So many things happen in this life that statement is not even fair. My parents raised 4 kids on one living wage salary. Just at the time the last one graduated, my Dad went on disability. My Mom did very good with the money brought in, but there was nothing for savings."
I completely get that there are economic disasters that befall individual families. In 1925, my grandmother was left widowed with 4 children ranging in age from 2 (my mom) to 14 (her oldest brother). Oldest brother needed to drop out of HS to support the family. There was no safety net in those days.
This is why we have a social safety net in this country; it's called Medicare/Medicaid/Social Security. It's not perfect, but it's a damn sight better than it was in 1925. Mom needs to apply for help if she needs it; she has NO RIGHT to ask her children to give up their ability to earn for THEIR retirement to keep her at home.
This is what capitalism is all about folks...pay as you go. If you don't like this system, vote a new one in.
“Mum, as you are needing more care and I cannot provide it, it is time to look into different options. I am happy to spend a couple house a week over the next month researching Assisted Living facilities. You will get the final choice on which one you will live in.”
Why would you even have to consider this question? When you are married your husband should always be first and come first, unless of course he is abusive, or you are unhappy in your marriage and you are looking for a way out. If that is the case, then choose your mom. If not, then stand by your man and tell mom you've made your choice, and it's not her.
Your mom must have some underlying issues that she would even put you in this position. Stand strong and do what's best for you and your husband.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Your mom had a lifetime to plan for her old age. A child is not a retirement plan.
Did you make this vow to your mother??? What a selfish person. Goodbye mom!
I hope that you stick to your guns and don't let her manipulate you into leaving your husband. She has some serious issues to even consider making you choose.
I completely get that there are economic disasters that befall individual families. In 1925, my grandmother was left widowed with 4 children ranging in age from 2 (my mom) to 14 (her oldest brother). Oldest brother needed to drop out of HS to support the family. There was no safety net in those days.
This is why we have a social safety net in this country; it's called Medicare/Medicaid/Social Security. It's not perfect, but it's a damn sight better than it was in 1925. Mom needs to apply for help if she needs it; she has NO RIGHT to ask her children to give up their ability to earn for THEIR retirement to keep her at home.
This is what capitalism is all about folks...pay as you go. If you don't like this system, vote a new one in.
Your mom must have some underlying issues that she would even put you in this position. Stand strong and do what's best for you and your husband.
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